We Take Things For Granted

We Take Things For Granted

It happens on a couple of occasions throughout the year. I sit down for the evening, usually after putting the Little Man to bed and turn the television on to watch a charity fundraising show. This time it was Children In Need and this time it was no different.

I start the evening looking forward to the entertainment. The live acts, the silly sketches and the ever brilliant EastEnders cast performing something so far removed from their usual storylines. And then I remember. Then I realise that the evening won’t be all smiles. The evening usually includes quite a few tears. And every year, without fail I find myself going into to my Little Man’s bedroom to check on him more than usual. Sometimes I give him a kiss. Sometimes I just stand and watch him for a while. But above all, I stand there and thank my lucky stars.

Difficult viewing

The videos they show on programmes such as Children In Need are utterly heartbreaking. One, in particular, this year, actually had me sobbing at the end. This world can be so cruel. Children are so innocent and precious and some of the things that they go through and endure, no one should have to, let alone a small child.

Every year it makes me realise that I do take my little one for granted. Just like I take a lot of things for granted. But I don’t think I’m alone. I think we are all guilty. We all get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and we don’t stop to think about how lucky we are.

Time to be grateful

We don’t think about all that we have, a lot of the times we are thinking about what we don’t have. Is this the right attitude? We all know that we should think about the positives instead of the negatives but how many of us actually do this? I once read a quote.

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“If you have a family that loves you, a few good friends, food on your table and a roof over your head. You are richer than you think.”

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The quote doesn’t need explaining.

My point is this. We all have good days and bad days. Especially being parents. We are quick to grumble about how hard it is raising a child and how difficult it can be to cope with the the demands. I am the first to admit it. I do this a lot because I think it’s important to let others know that they are normal and they are not alone. But it’s so important to focus on the positives too. We need to balance it out. While we say we are thankful every day we need to really believe it.

Life is too short

Next time Little Man is in the midst of an outburst and I’m trying my new relaxed approach when handling the situation, I’m going to try and remember how lucky and thankful I am to have a healthy little boy who can shout at me. A little boy who can storm off and slam his bedroom door (yes, 4 going on 14!) and a little boy who is able to come back, give me a cuddle and say sorry when he’s ready. That is more important than anything.

Our health and well-being is the most important thing in the world. We are here just once. Life is too short to stay stressed and angry.

 

My heart goes out to all of the families featured in this year’s Children In Need. I can’t even begin to imagine what they have gone through and how they get through each day. I thank them for making me realise how lucky I am. I don’t know about you but I’m not taking anything for granted anymore.

Now, excuse me whilst I go and find the Little Man. He’s due another Mummy cuddle. He might not need it, but I do.

 

Do you watch fundraising programmes like Children In Need? How do they make you feel? Does it make you reevaluate everything? Let me know in the comments.

 

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38 Comment

  1. Reply
    twotinyhands
    20th November 2017 at 10:00 am

    You are so right and thank you. In my sleep deprived state I’m a little bit short with my toddler. So thank you for reminding me that it’s not that bad. Least we’re happy and healthy if not just a tad tired. Snuggling on the sofa with a movie now 😀 #familyfunlinky

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    Jenny
    20th November 2017 at 10:28 am

    I’m exactly the same. It’s heartbreaking to watch. I can’t even comprehend what the families must be going through. It’s always a good reminder to how lucky we are and how thankful we should be #honeybeelinky

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    mebeingmummy
    20th November 2017 at 11:51 am

    I was a wimp this year and skipped watching it. The idea of seeing all the suffering the poor little things endure just left me reeling so I made a donation and blogged instead. It really does make you count your blessings doesn’t It? #AnythingGoes

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      mebeingmummy
      27th November 2017 at 6:43 am

      Popping back from the #Honeybeelinky 🙂 xxx

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    nightwisprav3n
    20th November 2017 at 4:13 pm

    I don’t watch those programs because I want to donate money and I don’t have it and that makes me feel terrible. We do take things for granted though and every now and then we have to sit ourselves down and remind ourselves and our children of that fact and think of the things we are grateful for:) #anythinggoes

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    oldhouseintheshires
    20th November 2017 at 7:56 pm

    You are so right! It was heart breaking wasn’t it? #anythinggoes

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    theelephantmum
    20th November 2017 at 8:45 pm

    You’re so right. I feel the next step is to wonder what can one do to improve things. At least that’s my reaction. There’s so much that we can do for people who are in need for a hand. And I think it’s also the best way to teach privilege and gratitude to our kids. Thanks for sharing xx
    #HoneybeeLinky

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    jeremy@thirstydaddy
    21st November 2017 at 2:21 am

    I totally get this. I think that we all have a tendency to focus on our own problems and that isn’t something to beat yourself up over, but its good every once in a while to get a bit of a reality check #anythinggoes

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    Stuart
    21st November 2017 at 6:49 am

    It’s heartbreaking isn’t it. With Christmas about 5 weeks away and the kids thinking about what they want from Father Christmas we try to remind them how lucky we all are. #TriumphantTales

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    KHF
    21st November 2017 at 7:35 am

    All very valid but in a sleep-deprived, exhuasted state it is often SO very hard to see the wood for the trees. That said, I wish I were able to find joy in more things at the moment, perhaps a slight change in my mindset will help. I’ll keep that quote in mind when I’m in the thick of it! #TriumphantTales

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    stressymama
    21st November 2017 at 7:42 am

    I started watching the show this year but had to turn it off. My heart couldn’t cope with what some of these innocent children have to endure. We really should count our blessings shouldn’t we. #TriumphantTales

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    Heather Keet
    21st November 2017 at 7:51 am

    It really does put into perspective how well we have it. #AnythingGoes

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    Lisa - Little Orange Dog
    21st November 2017 at 7:52 am

    I often find myself thinking how fortunate I am to have two happy healthy children. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it must be to have a sick child when your natural instinct is to protect them. Fabulous post Jaki #TruimphantTales x

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    passion fruit, paws and peonies
    21st November 2017 at 8:15 am

    Absolutely. It’s so good to have our worries put into perspective no matter what our ages x #TriumphantTales

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    Daddy poppins
    21st November 2017 at 8:16 am

    Very True, we should always be thankful for the good things we have. Nights like that put things in perspective

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    anywaytostayathome
    21st November 2017 at 8:20 am

    I think we are all a little guilty of taking things for granted. It’s hard not to get snippy went they are yelling about something ridiculous or you haven’t slept but at least we’ve got happy healthy kids keeping us on our toes. We are helping our nursery with a reverse advent calendar this year, it’s not much but I like to try and help when I can #twinklytuesday

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    anywaytostayathome
    21st November 2017 at 8:28 am

    You are so right. We are all a little guilty of taking things for granted. It can be hard when they are driving us crazy! But at least they are there to drive us to distraction #twinklytuesday

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    Mummy2twindividuals
    21st November 2017 at 8:39 am

    Absolutely. I think most of us need a little reminder every now and then to appreciate what we’ve got. #triumphanttales

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    Erin
    21st November 2017 at 9:14 am

    I love that quote. It is so true and so important. I went to Ghana with my school and they laughed at us having fridges saying it’s so cold here why on earth would we need one. It gave a lot of perspective.

    Erin
    #TriumphantTales

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    Ellen
    21st November 2017 at 9:19 am

    I have to admit to not watching them because I often feel helpless! Having said that I work in a charity so my day is spent trying to help children and young people. Doing this makes me feel less guilty when I don’t watch the likes of BBC Children in Need.

    Ellen x
    http://www.elfeelgoodsvintage.uk
    #TriumphantTales

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    Mrs Jibril
    21st November 2017 at 10:59 am

    I don’t watch fundraising shows but every time I watch even a sad movie or show it makes me realise how lucky i am to have my family or when I hear people struggling to conceive I feel grateful that we were blessed with our little boy. Thanks for the reminder to be more thankful #TriumphantTales

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    franbackwithabump
    21st November 2017 at 11:41 am

    This is such a lovely post and so true. I sat with my eldest and watched some of it on Friday and some of the tales of kids having normal lives once was just so sad. It was also a stark reminder of what our lives would be like if Oliver was still with us and a reminder of how hard life was at times. Thanks for hosting #triumphanttales

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    wrexhammama
    21st November 2017 at 12:13 pm

    Life is definitely too short, you dont know what is round the corner, if you will wake up to the same things,and them same things youd miss for sure, watching the children in need videos on youtube made me realise that #TriumphantTales

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    talkingmums1
    21st November 2017 at 1:40 pm

    I always end up crying watching Children In Need. It’s so sad that innocent children get caught up in the actions of those that should care for them. We should definitely feel grateful for what we have x
    #triumphanttales

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    mamagrace
    21st November 2017 at 5:46 pm

    We have to try and make the most of what we’ve got, though it’s all relative and can be hard. #TriumphantTales

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    mommyhomemanager
    21st November 2017 at 7:06 pm

    All of this is so true, and we should remind ourselves more often.
    What we have right now is much more important than what we don’t. <3

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    thesingleswan
    21st November 2017 at 10:36 pm

    You are right to remind us how lucky we are, or at least you are right to remind me how lucky I am. There are times, usually when my period is due (god I hate being a woman) that I am a bit short with Cygnet. I need reminding of how lucky I am. Pen x #TriumphantTales

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    collette dunn
    22nd November 2017 at 12:45 pm

    This is so true and programmes like Children In Need really make you appreciate what you have. #triumphanttales

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    Neil
    22nd November 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Becoming a parent has definitely made me think differently when watching these kind of things. We have to cherish what we’ve got each and every day. #TriumphantTales

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    Jo - Mother of Teenagers
    23rd November 2017 at 8:33 pm

    Jaki it is impossible to watch those fundraising TV evenings and not be moved and particularly because so much is focused on disadvantaged children. It is as you say a harsh reminder of how lucky we are and puts our own lesser woes firmly in perspective. #TriumphantTales

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    Heather Keet
    24th November 2017 at 8:33 am

    I’m dropping by again with the #DreamTeam

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    Alana - Burnished Chaos
    25th November 2017 at 3:38 pm

    This is so true. Daily life can sometimes get us down but it’s important to take a step back every now and then and appreciate all the great things, big and small, we have in our lives.
    Thank you for joining #FamilyFunLinky x

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    mummascribbles
    25th November 2017 at 8:46 pm

    This is so very true. I am not going to lie, I just can’t watch the videos anymore – at least not the really upsetting ones. I just can’t do it. I’ve watched enough over the years though to know just how lucky I am. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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    Annette, 3 Little Buttons
    25th November 2017 at 9:01 pm

    I’m with you on this. It’s so hard to watch isn’t it. We never make it all the way through as it can be so sad. I completely agree that it’s very easy to take things for granted, and I love the saying you have included. We don’t really need an awful lot, but it’s very easy to be side tracked into forgetting this. Thanks so much for joining us for the #DreamTeam xx

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    MummyConfessions
    26th November 2017 at 12:41 pm

    I haven’t seen shows like that before, but there are so many people out there who do it tough and so many people less fortunate. It is so important to count your blessings and try to focus on the positive when it seems like you’re getting the short end of the stick. It puts everything in perspective! #TriumphantTales

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    The Queen of Collage
    26th November 2017 at 8:22 pm

    Children in Need had me in tears too. It certainly is so sad seeing children hurt. #TriumphantTales

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    Jo - Pickle & Poppet
    26th November 2017 at 9:15 pm

    This is very true. I find watching anything like this difficult. It’s hard but it does make you think about how lucky you are. #HoneybeeLinky

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    Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...
    26th November 2017 at 9:30 pm

    I feel terrible admitting it but I can’t watch them. After having kids it is just too hard to see suffering #triumphanttales

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