By the time I go back to work, I will have taken nine months Maternity Leave, the first six weeks of that being on full pay. I called my baby Ethan. I am a size 12, not an 8 and God forbid, I have tattoo’s. I am everything, the pitiful excuse of a woman we’ll call ‘K’ disapproves of.
Who the HELL does this woman think she is?
She has inspired many a blog post that have never made it to publication simply because I was too wound up to string the sentences together. Now, after much deliberation, I have decided to go for it.
I was going to go through everything this woman has said that’s wound me up, but all it was doing was winding me up even more! For the sake of my blood pressure I had to hit the delete button.
She seems to take it upon herself to attack parents. My first run in with her was when she said that Mums who stay at home to look after their children, see it as an excuse to not work and keep their slippers on. REALLY? Should we not want to stay with our babies and raise them ourselves? If she chooses to go back to work and have someone else feed her babies and change their nappies then that’s fine but don’t criticise us that don’t choose to do that. I could sit here on my pedestal and say that what is the point in having a baby if you’re going to pay someone else to look after it and bring it up? But I understand that we are all different and that everybody’s circumstances are individual and it’s their choice how they choose to raise their babies. I will however say one thing. A day out at work is FAR easier than a day looking after a baby. After all you get a paid lunch break at work, where low and behold you get to eat! And tea breaks where you get to have a drink. You can have five minutes peace while you nip to the loo. You stay at home with a child and there is no guaranteed lunch break, tea break, or toilet break. It is full on from the minute you wake up to the minute you go to sleep, and sleep is only if you’re lucky. But I would not change it for the world. I am paid with the love of my baby and the smiles and giggles he gives me and that makes me richer than any well paid job could make me. But maybe that’s why ‘K’ chose to go back to work after just two weeks maternity leave with all three of her children. Maybe she’s just not cut out for it?
I’m not going to go into the whole ‘child’s name’ thing, that’s had far too much publicity than it deserves. I know that contrary to what she said on her Twitter timeline, Ethan is a beautiful name and I have no regrets in choosing it for my gorgeous boy.
What I do want to mention though is her pathetic article regarding new Mums being ‘lazy’ if they are not a size 8. I mean. Have you ever heard anything so ridiculous in your life? Has she given any kind of thought that her words and opinions regarding this may be very harmful to new Mums who may have body issue hang ups or post natal depression? Being a new Mum is hard enough without having to read this crap. Should the health and well being of your new baby not be the priority rather than being at the gym trying to beat the bulge as soon as physically possible? But then this is the woman who went back to work after two weeks maternity leave, so I guess we can see where her priorities lie.
Finally, and then I promise I’m done, comes today’s absurd quote regarding childbirth. Ready for it? I quote, “Childbirth is not difficult”.
I am insulted by this and I had a straightforward labour. I am one of the lucky ones but there are so many women who don’t have easy labours and who would disagree ten fold with such a stupid statement. Some women even die during childbirth. It is such an inconsiderate, insensitive comment to make! But then I think to myself, there are many, many great comebacks you could make to the statement ‘childbirth is not difficult’ but I wouldn’t want to stoop to her level and make this personal.
So I’ll end this now with a smirk and be completely safe in the knowledge that despite my faults, and I’ve no doubt that I’ve some, at least my beautiful baby boy hasn’t got someone like our friend ‘K’ as a Mother.