Sooner or later, the time comes for families to move. For parents, it’s an exciting time and a chance to move up the property ladder or explore a new area. But for kids, it can be traumatic. Moving home isn’t something that they take lightly. In fact, it can be very disruptive and stressful.
The main problem is the fact that kids don’t often understand why the move is necessary. Because they’re not in the world of work, they don’t understand why they have to move, just because mommy got a new job or daddy got a promotion. They also usually don’t get it when parents say that they want to move to a bigger or better house. What’s wrong with the one that you live in right now?
Here’s how to prepare your kids for the big move.
Discussing The Move With Kids
Discussing the move with children is as important as drawing up the contract with your solicitor or searching online for the best removal quotes. Taking a two-pronged approach is important. The first is to clearly explain why you’re moving. Kids need to understand that homes can change and that sometimes parents need to move in order to advance in the world. Secondly, parents need to sell the idea of moving to their kids. Show kids how much better their lives will be if you move home. No more having to sleep on bunk beds with siblings, for example – or perhaps a larger garden to play in during the summer.
Broaching subjects like moving away from friends and changing schools can be difficult. But it’s important to temper your children’s negative responses to positive scenarios. Yes, they might not be able to see their friends at their old school every day, but they’ll be able to visit on weekends. Plus, they’ll make new friends at their new school and be able to take part in different social circles.
Postpone The Move If Your Family Is Experiencing A Crisis
Crisis periods are an inevitable part of family life. There will come a time when somebody in the family will die or separate from their spouse, and this can be a challenging time for children. In these circumstances, it might be a good idea to postpone the move to avoid making the period too traumatic. The ease with which your children accept the move or not depends on a lot of what else is going on in their lives and in yours. Your mood can affect how they feel about moving, and your attitudes can greatly impact on kids.
Reassure Them That Very Little Will Change
Children are hardwired to want consistency. The reason for this is that they know how dependent they are on others for their survival. A good way to reassure them about a move is to emphasise that very little will change. They’ll still have their same toys and their same furniture. And they’ll still be able to do all the things that they do right now.