Five Going On Fifteen

Five Going On Fifteen

“Five going on fifteen”. I have lost count how many times I have used this phrase over the last couple of months. It’s hard to believe that my little man is coming to the end of his first year at school. Can someone please tell me where that time has gone?

 

It seems only last month that I was waiting to go to my three-month scan after finding out really early that we were having a baby. It seems only last week that I was getting myself all worked up about that baby starting school, when in reality that is now almost nine months ago and now the preparations have started for the beginning of Year One in just three months time.

 

School has changed the little man. Of course it has, and that is to be expected. But I suppose it is like anything to do with parenting – nothing prepares you. They wander off into school on that first day and I hate to admit this, but you never really get them back. That sounds a little extreme, I know, and perhaps it is. But there is some truth in it.

 

They grow up so very fast in the first year of school. Not just in their abilities, but in their personalities too. I could have a conversation with the little man a year ago, of course, but now they are on another level. Sometimes, not for the better, I hasten to add.

 

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There has been, shall we say, a bit of an attitude that has reared it’s not so pretty face. Some answering back and some ‘lip’ as it’s been known to be called. Sometimes I look at him and wonder where on earth it has come from because our parenting techniques and attitudes haven’t changed. The only major change he’s had in the last few months is school and so I strongly believe that this is where the change has come from.

 

To look at him, you would think he wouldn’t say ‘boo’ to a goose. And if we are being realistic, 80% of the time, our little man is delightful. But doesn’t that 20% feel so much worse when it’s present? At school, behaviour isn’t an issue and for this I am grateful. When we are out and about, be it shopping, or at lunch somewhere, behaviour isn’t generally an issue and for that, I am also grateful.

 

What this has made me realise is that we are his ‘comfortable place’. When he is with us he feels comfortable to release all of his frustrations from the day. Being well behaved all the time when you’re that little and at school, can’t be easy and the fact that he does do it, kind of makes it all a bit easier to accept.

 

Mixing with other children and discovering different vocabularies, is bound to rub off and have a knock-on effect, so it is this that I am putting it all down to. This too shall pass, I am sure. And if not, then I am getting a lot of practice in ready for those teenage years!

 

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Like I said, 80% of the time, my little man is wonderful to be around. The conversations we have can be fascinating and he teaches me new things every day. He has come on so much since starting school. He will now write in birthday cards himself and is always trying to read things he sees in different places. These are only a couple of examples. So you see ‘five going on fifteen’ isn’t a bad thing. He is growing into himself and becoming is own person. But it doesn’t make it any less scary for us, his parents, observing it all. Where was that pause button again?

 

They say they are only small for a short amount of time and it is so very true. With each month that goes by, he is another one closer to his sixth birthday which seems totally incomprehensible. What happened to that little 6lb 4oz bundle I held in my arms just last week?!

 

I know he will outgrow the tantrums and the backchat. I know one day we will laugh about it and only remember the funny things that he says and does. The Greatest Showman singalongs and the back to back attempts of the Three Marker Challenge that I always lose. Those are the memories to carry on making and to just take the rest with a pinch of salt. He won’t be little forever. Unless I do remember where the pause button is.

 

Little man may be five going on fifteen, but that’s just it. He is still five. It’s still only very small and it’s important to not lose sight of that. Fifteen will be here before we know it and I’m not ready for that. And I don’t need to be. Not yet.

 

 


 

 

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16 Comment

  1. Reply
    Jeff Wood
    25th May 2018 at 3:30 pm

    15 comes fast so it seems, but nothing beats watching your kids become who they want to on that journey.
    #ThatFridayLinky

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    Emma MacDonald
    26th May 2018 at 10:45 am

    I’d love to say it get’s better, but it doesn’t. My oldest was an angel when she started school. She never had the terrible two’s, always did as she was told. Getting baby sisters didn’t change her. Her first year of school didn’t change her. Year 1 is what changed her and the “attitude” got worse and worse from there. Age 8 was probably the worst, where tantrums included hitting, kicking, screaming, stomping etc. She’s now 11 and starting to learn some self control. Much of this is down to us buying her a phone for her 11th birthday. She knows now that for every time she answers back, she loses her phone for a day. For any violence, she loses it for a week. x #ThatFridayLinky

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    Enda Sheppard
    26th May 2018 at 12:24 pm

    Outgrow the tantrums and the backchat? Hmmmm. Lol #ThatFridayLinky

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    diynige
    27th May 2018 at 8:04 am

    It’s scary how quickly time goes I always try to remember everything Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  5. It sounds like he’s testing the boundaries. I remember when mine went to school and they realised other kids had been given different boundaries than them. He sounds like a fabulous little chap. You do feel like you slowly lose them as they grow, but that’s what nature does. The amazing thing is when they are fully grown, you get them back (sort of), when they come back on their own terms and an equal level xx

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    Tracy Albiero
    29th May 2018 at 1:13 pm

    Mine is 7 going on 21! They grow up so fast. #triumphanttales

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    Patrick Weseman
    29th May 2018 at 3:48 pm

    Just wait until he gets older. I am dealing with my soon-to-be 21-year-old son and he is interesting to be around. It is almost like I don’t exist most of the time but it is what it is. #TriumphantTales

  8. Reply
    Sara @ Magical Mama Blog
    29th May 2018 at 4:09 pm

    I hate how quickly it flies by! These types of posts always remind me to hug my 18 month old a bit tighter and spend a few more minutes every day watching her and trying to memorize and soak in every little bit of her for the day!
    #TriumphantTales

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    Welsh Mum Writing
    29th May 2018 at 6:43 pm

    When you find the pause button can you tell me where to locate it please? I can’t believe how quickly the past two and half years have gone. Small Boy will be 15 before we know it. It’s a difficult age, this space between child and adult. It’s not surprising they have the odd outburst and test boundaries. Sounds like a fab kid though! #TriumphantTales

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    Sam - Serenely Sam
    30th May 2018 at 6:03 pm

    Molly is 3 going on 13 so I know where you’re coming from with the ‘lip’. She starts school in September and on the one hand I can’t wait, for a bit of peace, but on the other I’m dreading it. She’s not 4 until mid July so when she starts some of the other children will be ready to turn 5. She’s a baby compared to them which scares me. But, she will soon settle in (I hope), change and grow so much in her first year of school. That scares me too.

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    Alan Herbert
    30th May 2018 at 10:23 pm

    Oh the three marker challenge. What I wouldn’t like to say to whoever invented that.
    Although as you say they are only little for a short while and before we know it they won’t want to be seen with us. Nevermind spend a full hour doing three marker challenges.

    #TriumphantTales

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    Jean | DelightfulRepast.com
    1st June 2018 at 2:19 pm

    Jaki, I missed getting in on the link party this time, but wanted to visit you and some of the linkers anyway. Love this post! You describe it so well, and your son sounds like a marvelous little chap! Wouldn’t that “pause button” be a wonderful thing?!

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    Lisa Pomerantz
    1st June 2018 at 8:47 pm

    Happiest of birthdays to your little man! He is a cutie, and yes, that do get a bit sharp around teh edges at times, don’t they. All in all, live every moment as presently as you can, cause time really does fly. xoxo #triumphanttales xoxo

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    Jo - Pickle & Poppet
    1st June 2018 at 9:30 pm

    I know what you mean about attitude and R isn’t even at school yet – there has been the odd occasion he has muttered under his breath as he walks away. Four, he’s four! They learn so much from their peers! #TriumphantTales

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    Ali Duke
    2nd June 2018 at 9:20 pm

    I think this happens with quite a few kids when they start school. My daughter is 12 going on 20, it frightens me lol!
    #TriumphantTales

  16. Reply
    Helena
    4th June 2018 at 7:41 pm

    Reading this has me hoping that my girls don’t change they are perfect as they are. Although if youngest could stop with the silly screeching my ears would be thankful. #TriumphantTales

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