Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are the five common stages of grief. However, how fast or slowly you move from a stage to another doesn’t depend on your individual situation or temperament. It depends on the regrets your keep about the relationship with your lost one. If you feel that you have left things unfinished, or lacked caring, then it will naturally impact on how you deal with bereavement. Death is part of life, but it is never easy to deal with it effectively. The best way to prepare yourself for it is to leave no room for regrets.
Care As Much As You Can
There are different levels of care when it comes to the people you love. Of course, there is an emotional care, which you still have and feel for them. But there is also a different form of care, a professional aspect that can impact on how you deal with loss. Indeed, it’s about making sure that you’ve done everything you could for the ones you love. This includes ensuring that the necessary medical assistance has been part of their lives when they needed it, such as surgery, palliative nursing and mental health support. It isn’t easy to let go of someone, but knowing that you have done everything you could to make their lives as smooth as possible is extremely important in dealing with loss. Loss is a terrible destruction of your social landscape. There is no need to add guilt to it, so do take the best possible care of those you cherish.
Keep The Happy Memories
Don’t hang onto the thought that you will never see them again. While this is true, you should instead focus on the happy memories you have with them. There is never anything positive about grieving, but it’s a process of accepting that someone you cherish is gone. This acceptance only comes from the deliberate effort to remember the happy times with them and the last time you saw their smile. This is also a positive message to give to children when you have to explain to them that a grandparent or another relative has passed away. You need to help them remember the happy memories so that young children don’t develop disruptive social behaviour as a response to grief. It’s important for them as well as it is for you to know that the good times are staying forever with you.