When a loved one has passed too soon to make it to your wedding, you can feel terrible knowing they aren’t going to be there to participate in the festivities. Finding a way to make their memory a significant part of the occasion, however, can help ease your mind. The idea should be to do things in a way that makes everyone feel touched, but not sad. It is a joyous occasion, after all.
Have messages read out
You’re probably not going to call close friends of the person you miss. What you can do is to call them prior to the wedding, and have them say something nice about their friend. If you have an Android call recorder app on your phone, you’ll be able to record what they say. Then, on the day, you can take a moment to play those wonderful messages.
Plan a little gesture
Whether the person who’s no longer with you loved cigars or whisky or had a favourite food, passing some around with a request that everyone remembers the absent guest. It’s a sweet thing to do, and it’s hard to not think nice thoughts about someone when you just got to enjoy something nice for them.
Leave an open seat
Empty, unoccupied seats that you leave for the family member that you miss the most can be a touching way to demonstrate how much a part of your special day they are. An open table, fully catered, can be a sweet gesture, as well.
Wear something that belonged to them
If you have a wedding dress that belonged to your grandmother whom you miss or a ring that belonged to a favourite aunt, wearing it on your wedding can be a beautiful way to include them in the ceremony. If you don’t actually have something you can wear, bringing an important gift they once gave you and making it an important part of the wedding ceremony, can work as well.
Memorialise them on the invitations
A sweet, simple line in memory of the loved one you miss would look beautiful on the invitation. Some prefer to send a recipe card for a favourite recipe, or even a little box of their favourite sweet, along with each invitation.
Create a little memorial
A small table decked out with lots of flowers and pictures of your loved one could be a touching tribute. Even better would be a musical tribute. Having the wedding band play a few of their favourite songs could have everyone choking up.
If it’s been years and years since you lost your loved one, and you wonder if it might seem strange to make them part of your wedding, you should know it’s OK. All that matters is how much you miss them. If it will make you feel better, you should remember them on the day. When it comes from the heart, you can be sure that it always appears in good taste.
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