Are you a talker or a texter…?

Are you a talker or a texter…?

I can remember when my husband and I first started dating. Way back when. You know what it’s like, you get each other’s numbers, you start texting each other and if you’re anything like we were, texts go flying backwards and forwards like crazy and it goes on like that for a while. Then one day, out of the blue, he rang me. I won’t lie, I went into a panic. I was like “Oh my God, he’s RINGING me?!”

It’s safe to say that from that moment on, I realised that I was 100% a texter and not a talker.

To be fair, this isn’t the greatest of examples, I mean why shouldn’t he call me? We were dating after all and he probably got fed up of texting when he would actually prefer to talk to his new girlfriend. So that’s perfectly fine. But it was definitely this moment that I realised that I preferred to text people.

With texts there’s less pressure. I can think about my answers. I can reply in my own time. I don’t have to make conversation when I’m really not in the mood.

I understand that sometimes a phone call IS necessary. Something might be that urgent that you need speak with someone immediately and in other instancesΒ from time to time it’s nice to have a catch up. But what really gets on my nerves is when people will phone you just to ask you a question that doesn’t require an immediate answer. It’s a phone call that then takes place for no real reason, filled with inane unnecessary waffle, whilst I, stand there rolling my eyes trying to think of things to say when really all I want to do is hang up and go about myΒ day. But I don’t of course, because I’m polite.

If I didn’t need further confirmation of my communication preference, I got it anyway recently at work when we had a fun day of taking part in the Myers Briggs personality test. If you haven’t heard of this before I really recommend you have a look at the website. It’s a fantastic way to discover more about yourself that you may not already know. I won’t go into it here as it’s a whole new post, but to cut a long story short, I discovered I was introverted, sensing, feeling and judging, also know in Myers Briggs terms as ISFJ. It’s a common trait of an ISFJ to prefer to text! So there we have it. It’s all part of who I am and there’s not a jot I can do about it!


Bizarrely in some weird twist of irony I ended up marrying a talker, not a texter! Well they do say opposites attract…! It’s just good we’ve got way past the stage of making polite conversation and I can just say “I’m going now!” when I’m on the phone and I literally have nothing remotely worthwhile to add to the conversation!

That’s the hubby sorted, it’s just everyone else that I need to work on. Who knows, maybe this blog post might be a subtle hint!

How about you, are you a talker or a texter? Let me know in the comments…!


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  1. Toni
    2nd September 2016 / 5:59 pm

    I think I’m definitely a mixture of both! I like texting but it can get annoying when people take a million years to reply, at least on the phone I can get an immediate and flowing conversation πŸ™‚

    Toni x

    • Jaki
      2nd September 2016 / 9:03 pm

      That’s where I excel myself. You can nearly always get a reply from me – it stops people ringing me!! πŸ™‚ Thanks for commenting:)

  2. Donna
    2nd September 2016 / 6:08 pm

    Definitely a texter! But then you know that!! ☺️ xxx

    • Jaki
      2nd September 2016 / 9:02 pm

      You are SO my Sister!! πŸ˜‰ xxx

  3. 2nd September 2016 / 11:14 pm

    He he I’m a bit of a texted too my oh is a talker too! When we dated he rang me too and I quite liked that aspect but definitely organising mummy meet ups I prefer text. There is one mum that insists on ringing, I often ignore it! #pocolo

    • Jaki
      4th September 2016 / 12:41 pm

      Haha that sounds just like me! I’m like just text me for gods sake!! πŸ™‚ Thanks for your comment.

  4. 3rd September 2016 / 6:56 am

    I can do both, texting is ok when you’re just chatting about day to day stuff or making plans, but when a question requires a response and all the texter does is just reply with ‘k’ it needs a phone call to gauge the other persons level of understanding of your request. i.e ‘don’t forget to pick child up from airport at 12.20pm on tuesday’ deserves a better response than ‘k’ when child has been forgotten in the past, because the message was read on the tuesday morning, so the assumption was he arrived the following day. That is when a phone call is needed to make sure the other person has understood, and because they are a tester only I would of course follow up with a text to confirm.

    • Jaki
      4th September 2016 / 12:43 pm

      I think a true ‘Texter’ will always give you a better response with ‘k’. I mean that’s just lazy!! It’s what we are best at after all πŸ™‚
      Thanks for reading and commenting.

  5. 3rd September 2016 / 9:03 am

    I am 100% introvert and will avoid talking on the phone at all costs – at work I always email and only phone someone as a worst case scenario . It’s only really my parents I talk to on the phone #fortheloveofblog

    • Jaki
      4th September 2016 / 12:43 pm

      You sound like me!! Nice to know I’m not alone! πŸ™‚

  6. alex
    3rd September 2016 / 1:49 pm

    Oh I am so with you on this one!!!! And I do have some firends who are definitely talkers, so when my phone rings from them I just don’t answer!! Fortunately for me, mobile phones werent around when I was dating and it was just letter writing – now there’s a whole different ball game, and a genre I miss sooooo much! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Jaki
      4th September 2016 / 12:45 pm

      Haha in the early early days of school I had no choice but to answer the phone! Thank goodness for modern technology! πŸ™‚

  7. 3rd September 2016 / 10:02 pm

    I am definitely a texter. I think texting can be really fun. My hubby is a texter too, so all is well in our household lol.

    • Jaki
      4th September 2016 / 12:52 pm

      Fantastic! I’m used to the hubby ringing me now, still doesn’t send me into a panic when someone else does though!! πŸ™‚

  8. 5th September 2016 / 3:07 pm

    the problem with texting is that nuance is missed. Sometimes “tone of voice” is assumed and that can lead to misunderstanding. That being said, i don’t really like to talk much on the phone either. #blogginggoodtime

    • Jaki
      5th September 2016 / 3:09 pm

      Admittedly you do have to be careful. I guess that’s why in this day and age emojis can be useful. Thanks for reading.

  9. 6th September 2016 / 5:28 pm

    I am definitely a texter! With the rise of what’s app it’s now so easy to text rather than talk. I really should pick up the phone more, even at work im more guilty of sending an email than having a conversation. It’s interesting as 30 years ago people probably used to talk more. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofblog. Claire x

    • Jaki
      6th September 2016 / 9:27 pm

      You and me, guilty as charged! We even have an internal instant chat system at work so I only pick up the phone if I really have to! Bad really but that’s the 21st Century!! Thankfully!! πŸ™‚ x

  10. 7th September 2016 / 9:46 am

    It definitely depends who it is!! My best friend and I talk on the phone several times a day, sometimes for hours at night when the kids are in bed. Everyone else I’m a texter! It’s just so much easier!! #bestandworst

    • Jaki
      7th September 2016 / 5:14 pm

      Yes! I get this! I have used the phone to speak at length to some people but they would need to be a certain kind!! πŸ™‚ thanks for reading.

  11. CaptainKirt
    7th September 2016 / 10:13 am

    I’m definitely a texter although that wasn’t always like that. When I was dating my future wife I used to communicate by chucking small stones at her bedroom window whilst hoping I didn’t wake her parents. It was the early nineties and we get our first mobile till 97.

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:46 pm

      Awesome! I assumed that was just something that happened in the movies!! πŸ™‚

  12. 7th September 2016 / 1:11 pm

    I hadn’t thought of this before and it’s a really good point to make. I’m a texter because I feel (probably unnecessarily) that in phoning I am somehow invading the other person’s privacy.

    • Jaki
      7th September 2016 / 5:18 pm

      Haha at least you’re being considerate. I just can’t be bothered to physically talk to people!! πŸ™‚ thanks for reading! πŸ™‚

  13. 7th September 2016 / 6:17 pm

    I’m prob more of a texter but now and then I need a good chat! Hubby way prefers the phone to talk and he called me a lot at the start. It’s interesting to find out about yourself though! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:45 pm

      I’m beginning to think it’s the men that like to talk – at least from these comments! And they say women are the natterers of the world!! πŸ™‚

  14. 7th September 2016 / 6:57 pm

    Texter and I married a talker too, he’s definitely not a texted. I send him texts with all sorts of info in and get ok as response, drives me potty! πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing with #PoCoLo

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:44 pm

      Frustrating isn’t it? I send a nice quick text and he rings me!!! Arghhh! I just wanted to text!!! πŸ™‚ Thanks for hosting and sharing them as always πŸ™‚

  15. 7th September 2016 / 11:00 pm

    I have a genuine phone phobia. I never speak on the phone. Partly because i am partially deaf but also because I am an ISFJ too.

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:43 pm

      Ah hello fellow ISFJ! You’re the first to mention the Myers Briggs reference! I think there are a good few of us out there! Thank goodness for texts & emails hey?! πŸ™‚

  16. 8th September 2016 / 9:59 am

    I would say I’m a texter, I get really anxious in the phone, I’d much rather just text people haha great post, I’ve never really thought about this before now.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:41 pm

      Well now you have thought about it you know you’re not alone! It’s evident from the comments on this post that there is a lot of us out there πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by.

  17. 8th September 2016 / 12:18 pm

    I’m definitely a texter! The only person I talk to on the phone is my husband because he never replies to a text message. Even my best friends who I’ve known for 15 years I don’t like talking to on the phone!! Although, technically, I’m more of a Whatsapp girl than a texter…. #bestandworst

    • Jaki
      8th September 2016 / 8:37 pm

      Oh yes I do much prefer Whatsapp. I hate not knowing if a text hasn’t been delivered!! I’ve definitely had more ‘texters’ than ‘talkers’ comment on this. I’m clearly not alone on this one! πŸ™‚

  18. 12th September 2016 / 11:38 am

    I don’t know what has happened to me but in recent years I have become totally phone phobic and only text or whatapp it’s not that I don’t like talking it’s just that calling seems so intrusive these days as a busy mum doesn’t it?

    • Jaki
      12th September 2016 / 6:03 pm

      I blame modern technology. We get so used to be able to send a text or email and then when it comes to having to use our phones for the actual thing they’re meant for we never want to!! You’re not alone, don’t worry! πŸ™‚

  19. 15th September 2016 / 11:54 pm

    OMG I absolutely HATE phone calls, literally makes me feel sick every time the phone rings. I have no idea why, I’m fine face to face but phone calls eugghhh. Defo a texter! #friyaylinky

    • Jaki
      16th September 2016 / 3:38 pm

      This is definitely more common than I ever could have realised!! Yay for texting! πŸ™‚ x

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