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Some people say to me that buying a house or getting married “is one of the most stressful things you can do” in life…..This always makes me chuckle. I can 100% (hand of my heart) promise you that receiving a call out of the blue to confirm you are shortly going to be an unexpected parent makes buying a house a walk in the park!
This is what happened to me….it was 11th May 2015 and I have never known shock like it. In fact, it has taken me nearly 3 years to even talk about it in any detail. Sure when it first happened we were featured in Take A Break magazine but that was actually in desperation for extra money as my family had grown overnight, we were meant to be going to Florida a few months later and thanks to my organisational skills and desire to pay off the holiday ASAP, I missed the little, hidden caveat in the T&C’s that stated any voluntary payments would be considered our deposit. This meant that we lost the money on our holiday and would need to recoup emergency funds.
Needless to say, the article was a great success and opened up other avenues to speak up about our story. The local news wanted a scoop and press agencies wanted us to feature on TV. This was not my plan, we just wanted to hide and reflect on what our new reality was going to be like. We thankfully made the holiday money back and could concentrate on our new priority which happened to be a new baby daughter.
If I could go back in time, I would have told the “old me” that everything was going to be okay, not to worry that I had never held a baby (!) and to embrace the spotlight to make some positive change. But as I said I was and have been in long-term shock – well wouldn’t you be?! My daughter turns 3 next month and I think the turning point for me was Christmas 2017. Something inside me woke up and pulled me back. I had a family. We had been blessed with a wonderful bundle of joy and it was now time to tell my story.
If I had been given a £1 pound for every time some asked the question what it is like to be a 3 Hour Dad, how I reacted etc. I would be floating on my boat in St Tropez (okay not quite, maybe an inflatable dingy?!) But I had never really answered anybody. The magazine article was focused on the Mum and the wonderful mechanics of her body which could hide a full term baby in there?! I didn’t even feature. …How could that even be? I have been equally impacted, in fact in some respects more so. I have had to change jobs, use all my life savings to move house and get my family by on a single wage. This isn’t a time-specific adjustment, this is something that is lifelong and will remain as my number one priority.
So on the 1st January 2018 (in line with my new year’s resolution), I decided it was time to let go of the shock and release those anxious feelings that I had kept under lock and key for the last 3 years and write an eBook. Fittingly called “3 Hour Dad” The words simply poured out of me and I took sheer delight reliving the emotions of that fateful night. It is easy for me to now see that my daughter was coming either way and was meant to have been sent to us and I invite you to read my short journey into fatherhood and see for yourself how the great powers of the inevitable came for me.
My eBook is available on Amazon, iBooks, Google Play and all good retailers of eBooks. It is the price of a coffee and (available in all territories) for every sale I donate 50p to a good cause. A Random Act of Kindness pot! This involves surprising unsuspecting individuals by giving them gifts and reminding them that there is kindness in the world. The sales of the book fund the project I have called this the 3hourlution and I have set up a blog, Youtube and Instagram channel dedicated to sharing people’s reactions, testimonials and feedback.
It would mean the world if you could join me and maybe even check my short book out? It has short chapters and you can hear about what it is like to be a 3 Hour Dad from the Father’s POV. By purchasing you are automatically giving back and what is better than lifting other people? It lifts yourself, makes people smile and you make their day. My book has received some lovely feedback and unbeknown to me, it turns out I am a quite good Dad and it is safe to say I am no longer Babyphophic!
You can purchase ‘3 Hour Dad – Reading Is Believing‘ from Amazon.
Adam T Hourlution is the founder of 3HourDad.com, 3HD was born from his love of helping and giving back to others. Adam loves meeting new people and his goal is to remind them of just how brilliant they are by spreading some cheer in a world which doesn’t always seem so colourful.
He aims to add value by making people smile by using sales of his short eBook as the lifeblood of 3HD to start a RAOK (3hourlution!) aka randomly selecting people to receive free gifts and sharing their reaction and testimonials. These people he calls “the chosen ones” receive a happy note and a random act of kindness present. Adam is certain that this will not only positively impact someone’s’ day but will leave an imprint on the world.
As featured in Take a Break, The Daily Record, Daily Mail and The Mirror.
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