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5 Tips For Body Positivity – You Are Good Enough!

5 Tips For Body Positivity – You Are Good Enough!

We live in a world where we compare ourselves to others all the time. Go online and there are constant reminders of how society thinks we should look. Go to the supermarket and there is row upon row of magazines with headlines telling us how a celebrity lost all of her baby weight in just a few weeks. Go to the beauty salon and there are posters of models with flawless skin and perfect hair with an advert telling you how you can look like that too. It’s everywhere and sometimes it feels like you can’t escape it.

But ladies, that isn’t what body positivity is. That comes from your mind. It comes from within and I’m here today to tell you how you can feel good about yourself without having to succumb to the pressure of society.

 

Body positivity comes from your mind. It comes from within and I'm here today to tell you how you can feel good about yourself without having to succumb to the pressure of soci

Look In The Mirror And Like What You See

We are all guilty of looking in the mirror and pointing out the things we don’t like. I know I am. I’m constantly checking that my arse doesn’t look massive and if I think it does I will either change my outfit or I’ll put something on that disguises it. Instead of doing things like this we should look at the things we like about ourselves. Think about the positives, not the negatives. Perhaps you eyebrows are ‘on fleek’ or perhaps your hair has the most amazing bounce to it today. It doesn’t matter what it is. Focus on the things you do like and try and ignore the things you don’t like.

The Size Of Your Clothes Doesn’t Define You

Many of us get hung up on the size of our clothes. I used to get myself into a right tizz if I tried a top or a pair of jeans on and it wasn’t the size I was expecting. It didn’t matter if it looked absolutely fine in the next size up, I was just mortified that it wasn’t the ‘right size’. I’m over this now. I’ve come to realise that all shops are different. I could be a size 10 in one shop and a size 14 in another. Ladies, IT DOESN’T MATTER. It doesn’t define you. What matters is that you like the clothes and that you feel comfortable in them. Who cares what the label says.

 

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Workout For Your Health, Not Your Appearance

Yes, we all want to look nice. That’s a given. But when you go to the gym next time, don’t get hung up on the fact that your six pack isn’t yet showing or your bum isn’t as perky as you’d like. Give yourself a pat on the back that you are at the gym in the first place. The fact that you are there means you are doing wonders for your health and above everything else, that’s what’s important. Your looks won’t help you live longer, but your health will.

Wear Clothes You Feel Comfortable In

Unless you’re a catwalk model, chances are you aren’t living your life under the scrutiny of the fashion world. Nobody says you have to wear the latest fashions just to fit in. If you want to because you genuinely like them and find them comfortable then great, go for it, but don’t do so just to ‘fit in’. If you want to wear your Don’t Sweat It t-shirt and a pair of tracksuit bottoms to pop to the shops then do it. If you want to throw on your favourite pair of heels because they’re comfortable and they make you feel good, then do that too. Just make sure you’re wearing what you want because you want to and not because you feel pressurised to do so.

Learn To Take A Compliment

This is perhaps the most important of all. Going back to my first tip that mentioned the size of my ass. What I see isn’t necessarily what everyone else sees. For example, whilst I might hate my bum, my husband loves it and he tells me all the time. Instead of saying ‘oh don’t be silly’ I have started to say ‘thank you’. Slowly but surely I’m starting to believe it. Maybe I DO have a nice bum after all. Kim Kardashian works it – maybe I should too…?

 

5 Tips For Body Positivity - You Are Good Enough!

 

So you see. Body positivity comes from within. It’s all about our mindset and we can feel good about ourselves if we know how. Hopefully, these tips will go some way in helping you feel better about yourself.

 

Just remember, you are good enough. Be you – because nobody does you better than you do.

 

If this post inspires you, be sure to check out my other blog post, Empowering Women With The #SayNoToShiny CampaignWe need YOU on 8th March – Independent Women’s Day. Go and have a read and see how you can get involved and spread the word.

 


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34 Comments

  1. 19th February 2018 / 2:52 pm

    These are some great points, most of which I really need to take on board! On days that I’m quite successful at doing so, I find I feel so much happier in myself! #AnythingGoes

  2. thesingleswan
    19th February 2018 / 10:10 pm

    Great points. Particularly saying thank you when you receive a compliment. It can be really tough to do that. Pen x #Familyfun

  3. 20th February 2018 / 8:17 am

    Learning to take a compliment – I am so terrible at this. I immediately point out a flaw. I really want to appear gracious, but I struggle with the focus x

  4. 20th February 2018 / 9:24 am

    I agree. You can be your own cheerleader, and you can also be your worst critic. We all have bad days but that is when we need to be our own best friend more than ever. Thank you for sharing. x

  5. 20th February 2018 / 1:25 pm

    I think a lot of this can apply to Men too as these days we’re also under constant pressure to have that certain look. I for one have been guilty a number of times of obsessing in the mirror. Ultimately, if you can be happy with yourself everything falls into place although that can be easier said than done! #TriumphantTales

  6. 20th February 2018 / 1:38 pm

    Jaki, these issues get easier to deal with as you get older, generally speaking, but they don’t quite go away. I was very slender and quite the fashion plate in my teens and twenties, and that is still what I expect to see when I look in the mirror. Even then I was seeing the flaws. Now, instead of noticing every flaw, I try to remember to say something positive to myself — even if it’s a lie! 😀

  7. 20th February 2018 / 1:45 pm

    And I forgot to mention: Thank you for including the most important point of all – Workout for your health, not your appearance. And that same idea works for diet as well – Eat for your health, not your appearance. You’ve probably heard the saying “Nothing tastes as good as skinny looks.” I’ve switched that to “Nothing tastes as good as healthy feels.” And, though I make lots of desserts, I never eat more than 6 teaspoons of sugar in a day, which leads to no cravings, making it easy to be satisfied with small portions of desserts. #TriumphantTales

  8. viewfromthebeachchair
    20th February 2018 / 2:07 pm

    I have always said to dress your body type! I will NEVER look good in a mermaid style dress. However get me in an A line dress and I look great. Does not matter size. Feel good by being confident. #triumphanttales

  9. 20th February 2018 / 9:54 pm

    This is such a great post! It is something I am really working on at the moment. I wrote a post about it today but my mindset isn’t anywhere near as positive as yours … yet! #AnythingGoes

  10. 21st February 2018 / 7:21 am

    Hi, these are great tips most of which I need to try and take onboard. I especially need to learn to accept a compliment #TriumphantTales

  11. 21st February 2018 / 11:59 am

    Couldn’t agree more. There is so much pressure to dress or look a certain way. That’s why I’m backing #SayNoToShiny.
    Embarrassingly though I liked up this week to #TriumphantTales with two similar posts. I added them before I even read yours. Great minds think alike clearly LOL! Have a fab week lovely and thanks again for a great linky.

  12. 21st February 2018 / 8:51 pm

    It is so sad how very much of our time we spend worrying about stuff that really does not matter at all and even worse being so ready to denigrate ourselves. I wrote a love letter to myself today on my blog and did not run away from commenting positively on some of my body and it felt so good after years of feeling not good enough. This post is an important one and you will help people with it. #TriumphantTales

  13. 22nd February 2018 / 5:56 pm

    I think being able to take a compliment is something a lot of people struggle with. I definitely do. It’s silly really though, why do we find it so hard?! There is no reason. Thanks for joining us at #familyfun

  14. 22nd February 2018 / 5:57 pm

    Oh society and how it has brain washed us all! It is so easy to get wrapped up in body expectations and trends. Learning how to take a compliment is still hard for me, but I have sworn to myself to say thank you and move on! Thanks for all the great reminders, I’m sure we can all work on this!
    #TriumphantTales

  15. 22nd February 2018 / 7:19 pm

    This is fab 🙂 I think so many people struggle to take a compliment – I know I do! #Triumphanttales

  16. 22nd February 2018 / 9:12 pm

    I really took a lot away from this Jaki. I am terrible for grimacing at my own reflection, especially when I have rushed out of the door first thing in the morning… I need to live by these words!
    Thanks for linking to #coolmumclub – and I’m intrigued by this no to shiny thang!

    • Jaki
      25th February 2018 / 11:31 am

      So pleased you found it helpful! X

  17. 23rd February 2018 / 7:43 am

    So true! I love this post. Will be sharing on my Facebook page x #blogstravaganza

    • Jaki
      25th February 2018 / 11:30 am

      Thank you! X

  18. 23rd February 2018 / 12:08 pm

    Great post. Body image is a problem for everyone. Learning to accept your body is hard work. #PoCoLo

  19. 23rd February 2018 / 1:11 pm

    I have found with age I have learned to love myself more…..When I was in my teens and 20’s I was so critical of myself. Now I’m nearly 40 I now I am happy in my own skin. I still struggle to accept a compliment though. #PoCoLo

  20. 23rd February 2018 / 2:53 pm

    This is an excellent way to look at our bodies. Think about the positive stuff when we look into the mirror. For me, I will still notice the stuff I want to improve but then I look at what is nice about my body and I focus on that. This helps me walk away confident in myself. I love this post! #anythinggoes

  21. 23rd February 2018 / 5:46 pm

    I really love this post. Body positivity is so important! I’ve only been happy with what I see in the mirror since I had children. My perspective changed massively! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

  22. 23rd February 2018 / 7:43 pm

    Some great points. I am long past caring what ‘size’ I am in shops, if it fits and looks good, I’ll buy it #pocolo

  23. 23rd February 2018 / 8:33 pm

    Hi Jaki! These are all great tips, and help to turn the volume down on that inside voice that dominates our mindset! Thanks for these great tips! xoxo #triumphanttales xo

  24. 23rd February 2018 / 10:16 pm

    Some great tips. I do think that we spend so much time worrying about our looks. It’s only as I’ve gotten older I think more about being healthy rather than thin. I wouldn’t say I was comfortable but I accept my body has been through some changes. I struggle with compliments though, it doesn’t matter if it’s over an outfit or something I’ve cooked, when i get a compliment I feel a bit awkward #TriumphantTales

  25. 24th February 2018 / 3:42 pm

    I wonder whether this is why some people cut out the labels within clothes. #FamilyFunLinky

  26. 24th February 2018 / 8:15 pm

    Some great tips here, thanks. I know I am guilty of getting hung up on clothes sizes and not wanting to wear something because of the size on the label #pocolo

  27. Catie
    26th February 2018 / 10:19 am

    Really great post! I agree with all your points but particularly with eating for your health rather than to lose weight. #POCOLO

  28. 27th February 2018 / 7:43 pm

    You are totally right, Ive stopped analysing how much I weigh and what size my clothes are. It doesn’t matter! 🙂 I love eating and I love to be healthy too… great points. #Coolmumclub

  29. 6th March 2018 / 7:02 pm

    Great advice! Well worth remembering….

  30. Lucy At Home
    7th March 2018 / 1:20 pm

    I think we all need reminding of this. It’s so easy to see the negatives in ourselves and to feel like we need to fit in with everyone else. It’s just not true – being genuine and true to ourselves is far more important.

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

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