We live in a world where we compare ourselves to others all the time. Go online and there are constant reminders of how society thinks we should look. Go to the supermarket and there is row upon row of magazines with headlines telling us how a celebrity lost all of her baby weight in just a few weeks. Go to the beauty salon and there are posters of models with flawless skin and perfect hair with an advert telling you how you can look like that too. It’s everywhere and sometimes it feels like you can’t escape it.
But ladies, that isn’t what body positivity is. That comes from your mind. It comes from within and I’m here today to tell you how you can feel good about yourself without having to succumb to the pressure of society.
Look In The Mirror And Like What You See
We are all guilty of looking in the mirror and pointing out the things we don’t like. I know I am. I’m constantly checking that my arse doesn’t look massive and if I think it does I will either change my outfit or I’ll put something on that disguises it. Instead of doing things like this we should look at the things we like about ourselves. Think about the positives, not the negatives. Perhaps you eyebrows are ‘on fleek’ or perhaps your hair has the most amazing bounce to it today. It doesn’t matter what it is. Focus on the things you do like and try and ignore the things you don’t like.
The Size Of Your Clothes Doesn’t Define You
Many of us get hung up on the size of our clothes. I used to get myself into a right tizz if I tried a top or a pair of jeans on and it wasn’t the size I was expecting. It didn’t matter if it looked absolutely fine in the next size up, I was just mortified that it wasn’t the ‘right size’. I’m over this now. I’ve come to realise that all shops are different. I could be a size 10 in one shop and a size 14 in another. Ladies, IT DOESN’T MATTER. It doesn’t define you. What matters is that you like the clothes and that you feel comfortable in them. Who cares what the label says.
Workout For Your Health, Not Your Appearance
Yes, we all want to look nice. That’s a given. But when you go to the gym next time, don’t get hung up on the fact that your six pack isn’t yet showing or your bum isn’t as perky as you’d like. Give yourself a pat on the back that you are at the gym in the first place. The fact that you are there means you are doing wonders for your health and above everything else, that’s what’s important. Your looks won’t help you live longer, but your health will.
Wear Clothes You Feel Comfortable In
Unless you’re a catwalk model, chances are you aren’t living your life under the scrutiny of the fashion world. Nobody says you have to wear the latest fashions just to fit in. If you want to because you genuinely like them and find them comfortable then great, go for it, but don’t do so just to ‘fit in’. If you want to wear your Don’t Sweat It t-shirt and a pair of tracksuit bottoms to pop to the shops then do it. If you want to throw on your favourite pair of heels because they’re comfortable and they make you feel good, then do that too. Just make sure you’re wearing what you want because you want to and not because you feel pressurised to do so.
Learn To Take A Compliment
This is perhaps the most important of all. Going back to my first tip that mentioned the size of my ass. What I see isn’t necessarily what everyone else sees. For example, whilst I might hate my bum, my husband loves it and he tells me all the time. Instead of saying ‘oh don’t be silly’ I have started to say ‘thank you’. Slowly but surely I’m starting to believe it. Maybe I DO have a nice bum after all. Kim Kardashian works it – maybe I should too…?
So you see. Body positivity comes from within. It’s all about our mindset and we can feel good about ourselves if we know how. Hopefully, these tips will go some way in helping you feel better about yourself.
Just remember, you are good enough. Be you – because nobody does you better than you do.
If this post inspires you, be sure to check out my other blog post, Empowering Women With The #SayNoToShiny Campaign. We need YOU on 8th March – Independent Women’s Day. Go and have a read and see how you can get involved and spread the word.
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