As our parents get older, getting the balance between supporting their needs and managing our own, as well as our families, can feel overwhelming. The demands of caring for elderly parents while raising our own, commonly known as the “sandwich generation,” can mean that our emotional, physical and mental well-being often gets put aside, usually by ourselves. Amidst all of this, we have to remember that we cannot pour from an empty cup. So let’s show you some really important things to think about:
Explore Extra Help
Sometimes, the best care for your parents may not actually come from you. Finding the right residential home care support can give you peace of mind, particularly as you know that your loved ones will receive quality attention, companionship and medical support. This means that some of your burden can be relieved and you can rebuild your energy while also spending more meaningful time with your parents without feeling overwhelmed by the demands of caregiving on a daily basis.
Set Boundaries and Communicate as Openly as Possible
It is common to feel like you’re being pulled in every single direction, whether it’s your parents’ needs, your children’s needs, your work or your personal time that we have to remember. Establishing boundaries is not a sign of neglect, but more a sign that we are aware of ourselves. We’ve got to be honest with what we can realistically achieve and actually manage, which then means we set expectations, prevent burnout, but it also means that everybody understands the situation.
Make Time For Your Health
One of the most common threads among people in caring positions is that they neglect their own well-being, but you have to maintain your health. Regular check-ups, staying active through the smallest of daily routines and eating right are simple, but can make a massive difference. The key is not about doing it when you feel overwhelmed, but embedding a practice in your life so that you are able to depressurise. We often think there’s a big difference between physical and mental health, however your physical health will directly influence your ability to be resilient.
Seek Emotional Support
Caring for both parents and children can lead to isolation or even guilt. Many people feel like this is the thing they need to step up to in life, that finally they are going to be the superhero in the story, but the fact is that nobody is built to be like this 24/7 without any form of support. So make sure that you share your experiences and emotions with others, and if you are in desperate need of help, make sure that you ask for it before you become desperate!
Plan Joyous Moments
It may sound counterintuitive to step away when there’s a ton to get on with, but breaks are crucial so that we can maintain balance, which is why respite care services, trusted friends or family members can help while you recharge. We have to make sure that we are able to do what is expected of us, and this means aligning expectations with others, not to mention ensuring that it doesn’t turn into a job!
Balancing the needs is a delicate act, and you have to recognise your own limitations so that you are able to give your best. Making yourself a priority is essential.
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