I can remember when I was at school, I once got called a ‘posh snob’. I was shocked at the time. Not only because I was far from posh, but I certainly wasn’t a snob. But I was quiet and I did keep myself to myself. But that didn’t make me a snob. I know now, in later life, that it made me an introvert. As I still am.
Introverts can be easily misunderstood. As I was at school. But it can happen in adult life too. Not a lot of people understand why we prefer to stay in as opposed to going out. Some people don’t get it that we prefer to send them a text instead of calling them. And a lot of people don’t understand that when they make plans last minute and expect us to be okay with it, that it can actually make us feel really uncomfortable, but we will go along with it because we find it really hard to say ‘no’.
Qualities and traits of an introvert
- Quiet and retiring
- Prefers to be alone or with just a couple of close friends
- Spends a lot of time thinking and imagining
- Tends to plan ahead
- Would rather work alone
- Enjoys own company
- Prefers to email or text rather than make a phone call
It wasn’t until I took part in a personality test at work that I looked into introversion and extroversion a little further. Of course, the results of the test declared me an introvert and it didn’t surprise me, but what followed fascinated me. There were so many other people out there like me. I no longer felt weird if I would prefer to stay in in my pyjamas of an evening instead of going out for a night out. Certain friends became easier to be friends with because they would much rather send me a text and I didn’t have the tummy churning sensation when the phone rang and I didn’t want to answer the call.
Understanding an introvert
I don’t know about anyone else but now I understand my personality type more, I find myself surrounding myself with people who are more like me. It makes life a little easier, more comfortable let’s say. But of course, it is impossible to avoid our personality opposites. It can be difficult and uncomfortable at times. There is no harm in explaining to those closest to you that you aren’t comfortable in certain situations and you prefer to do something in a different way to perhaps they would like. Help them, to understand you.
Hearing from fellow introverts
I asked a few of my fellow introvert bloggers what situations make them feel uncomfortable or annoy them. Here is what they had to say.
Becki from themumfrombrum.co.uk
Yes. Just being around people, even people I love, for a long while really drains me. I feel bad but without my “me” time I think I’d genuinely go mad. I think of it as my social battery – and my ‘me time’ is how I recharge it.
Sarah from digitalmotherhood.com
How long have you got! Things that make me feel uncomfortable… Having to talk to people I don’t know like other parents at kids birthday parties, walking into a busy place by myself, having my hair cut or anything like nails & beauty treatments etc, talking in front of lots of people, basically any situation where I have to talk to people or where people are looking at me
Lyndsey from mehimthedogandababy.com
I get really annoyed when people turn up unannounced and then stay longer than they’re really welcome for! That’s when I feel uncomfortable because I don’t want to have to ask them to leave.
Lucy from muffintopmummy.com
Walking into places first when I’m with my husband or family. On my own, I can do it if I have to, but I always go mad at my poor husband when he’s chivalrous and holds a door for me because I hate going first!
Annette from 3littlebuttons.com
I think it’s really cringey when you’re put on the spot and asked your opinion in a large group when you clearly hadn’t been fourth coming with it in the first place. It’s that moment when everyone goes quiet and are eagerly waiting to hear what you say that gets me every time… gulp!
Laura from fivelittledoves.com
Forced fun!!! Nothing makes me as uncomfortable as forced fun, be that joining in with games, being dragged up to dance, or just cringey audience participation in a play. I can’t handle it!!
As a fellow introvert, I can relate to all of these! It made me chuckle reading them as I found myself nodding along saying “that is SO me!”. It’s nice to know we are not alone.
Of course, there is always a flip side to the coin and the extroverts amongst us also have their own traits and qualities, but obviously, that is a post I am less qualified to write.
We are all unique in our own way and that is what makes us who we are. I hope this post will help those introverts who feel a little misunderstood at times not only know that they are not alone but also go a little way in helping friends and loved ones of introverts, understand them a little more. We aren’t being rude, standoffish or stuck up. We are just being us. Just like you are being you.
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Are you an introvert or who feels misunderstood? Perhaps you are an extrovert who has struggled to understand an introvert friend, colleague or family member? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear from you.