Is it paranoia if it’s justified? As a Mum, you might find yourself wondering if you’re in danger of going ‘too far’. No one wants to find themselves with the realisation they have become a helicopter parent, after all. But at the same time… it’s a big, scary world out there. What’s so wrong with helicopter parenting anyway? (Answer: lots of things, unfortunately.)
Every parent goes through this kind of internal battle; the fight between the instinctive desire to protect and the paranoia that you’ll be too protective. In the midst of it all, you have to try and run your life as best you can. You have to work, pay bills, seek out insurance deals, make decisions about your own life. What’s more, you know you have to get these things spot on because if you don’t, you’re not the only one who’s going to suffer for your bad decisions. If you’re not careful, it’s a confusing mess – and sometimes, it’s a confusing mess even if you are careful.
So how do you cope?
- Any Problem That Arises Has Been Felt By Thousands Of Other Mums
Remembering the above can save your sanity.
If your child is screaming in the middle of a store, thousands of other Mums have been there. Thousands of others Mums have had to steer their kids away from the toy aisle and calmly explain why they can’t have everything, only to be met with a wail of noise and protest over the latest Marvel action figure.
If you’re battling with the broadband company who’ve made a mistake, cut service when your child has a school project due, finding yourself so frustrated by the endless drone of the hold music you want to cry… thousands of Mums have been there.
If you’re ironing a school uniform while hopping from online comparisons of One Sure Insurance to that one with the TV ad you keep hearing but just can’t remember the name of… thousands of other Mums have been there.
You’re not special or unique in this case – and that’s powerful. You’re going to be okay, because thousands of other Mums were.
- Tiny Decisions Don’t Usually Have Big Ramifications
If you occasionally indulge, help your child out, cross into ‘helicopter’ territory – it’s okay. It’s not going to matter in the grand scheme of things. It’s tempting – especially with all the online parenting advice – to think that every single decision you make regarding your child is going to be pivotal.
That’s not the case. In fact, 90% of the decisions you make are completely irrelevant outside of the moment itself – so don’t beat yourself up about (what you perceive to be) bad decisions you have made in the past.
- You Will Find The Time
Juggling running a home, balancing bills, keeping in touch with your friends and parenting, it can feel like someone has hit ‘fast forward’ and you’re running to keep up – but you never can.
So rather than panicking about how little time you have to do things, just roll your sleeves up and do them. At the very least, you’ll be able to look in the mirror at the end of the day and know you tried your best – which is what really matters.