“Mummy! Look, I’m catching the bad guys!”

“Mummy! Look, I’m catching the bad guys!”

“Mummy! Look, I’m catching the bad guys!”

These were the words of my innocent little four-year-old one afternoon this week as he sat playing with his matchbox police cars. The minute he said those words, not only did I melt with pride because he has a beautiful heart, but suddenly I also felt very sad.

I felt sad because any other week he could have said that and it wouldn’t have felt so raw. In fact, he probably has said it before and it hasn’t even struck a chord, but this week things are different.

Childhood innocence

My Little Man has no clue how poignant his words were. He doesn’t know just what kind of world we are currently living in. He has no clue that there are so many good people out there that are doing that very thing – trying to catch the bad guys.

In his eyes, or at least in his game, the bad guys were driving cars too fast. In his game, the bad guys were stealing burgers from the burger bar on his playmat. He caught them and he put them in prison. He was having a whale of a time.

Little Man is four years old. Of course, he has no clue what completely utterly, dreadful act took place this week. He has no clue that so many people lost their lives doing something that his Mummy loves to do – go to concerts. He is too young to know and too young to even begin to understand, and for that I am so very grateful.

Children grow up so fast and soon enough he will be old enough to start asking questions. I need to be prepared for that.

Children shouldn’t have to ask these kinds of questions and we shouldn’t have to be trying to find the words. But sadly, Little Man’s game isn’t too far from the truth. There are too many bad guys out there and for whatever screwed up reason, they are insistent on taking innocent lives. Children’s innocent lives.

How are we meant to feel?

This world we live in feels like a frightening place right now. I’m not going to lie and say I’m not scared because I am. I know I will likely feel nervous at the Robbie Williams gig in two weeks time when I see the extra security. I also know I won’t be alone. Many others will be feeling the same, whether they admit it or not.

I’ve lost count how many concerts I have been to over the last 25 years. Too many to even try and count. Carefree, happy times. As they should be. But now? Now we will always feel like we’re looking over our shoulders. Looking for the bad guys.

Good outweighs bad

But at the same time, we need to remember the good guys. The paramedics, the hospital staff, the police, the normal people in the street, the taxi drivers, the homeless people – the good guys who come through when tragedy strikes. There are so many more of them.

In times of tragedy, as hard as it is, we need to remember that there are so many more good guys than bad guys and that is something I will be teaching my Little Man as he grows up and learns more about the world.

I hope one day ‘catching bad guys’ can really mean cops and robbers on a playmat with matchbox cars, not trying to stop barbaric, terrorist acts of cowardice. We can only hope. We have to for the sake of our children.

 

My thoughts are with the families and all of those affected by the horrific events in Manchester on Monday, 22nd May 2017.

 

 

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40 Comments

  1. 26th May 2017 / 11:27 am

    Beautiful post; there’s something so poignant about the innoncence of children in the face of such atrocity. As you say, it’s about teaching our children to focus on the good, and hope that it will always triumph.

    Thanks for sharing #tharfridaylinky

  2. Kim Carberry
    26th May 2017 / 8:34 pm

    Beautiful! It is horrible that we even have to think about bad guys….
    #PoCoLo

  3. Jo - Pickle & Poppet
    26th May 2017 / 10:37 pm

    My son is three and he will ask questions if he hears something, I have made sure he doesn’t hear anything about the bombings because, in my opinion, he is too young to know about such evil, to rob him of some innocence and so like you, I will let him think that the bad guys steal burgers and Batman will save the day #ThatFridayLinky

  4. 28th May 2017 / 4:31 pm

    It’s so very difficult isn’t it? Our 7 year old heard a snippet on the news and I must admit that I quickly turned it down and changed the subject. She does know that a bomb went off a some people died. But why does she need to know more at 7? She really doesn’t. Long may your little man play cops n robbers in his own little world… #pocolo

  5. 28th May 2017 / 6:02 pm

    It’s been a truly horrific week, I believe in teaching our children to focus on the good too. That’s what I’ll tell my girls when the time comes that I have to explain such atrocities. Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

  6. 28th May 2017 / 7:59 pm

    So any more good guys than bad… I just have to keep telling myself that #blogstravaganza

  7. diynige
    29th May 2017 / 8:07 am

    Fab post yes we line in scary times I feel your fear Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  8. 29th May 2017 / 10:55 pm

    Bless him. Our little boy was 3 this week and each time the news has been on has said ‘lots of nee naws’, I hope when he is older and he can understand all this that it has stopped.
    #friyaylinky

  9. 30th May 2017 / 7:25 am

    All you can do is shield him and keep him innocent for as long as you can.

  10. 30th May 2017 / 8:10 am

    Great post, its been a strange ole week I have to admit I have been petrified and stopped myself going into out City Centre this week! Yes I know this sounds absolutely crazy and I’m sure I will pull myself together in the next few days but I have gone into crazy, protection mode and if by taking my children into the quiet wood areas to play rather than the crazy busy centre to drag around shops I don’t think its too bad. Its truly awful and I cant begin to imagine what the families are going through but you are right, there is way to much good over powering the bad….It would be so amazing if the world and everyone in it could have the innocence of a child!

    #triumphanttales

  11. 30th May 2017 / 1:33 pm

    Aww bless so cute, cant wait for my boy to start speaking sentences! xx #TriumphantTales

  12. makinghermama
    30th May 2017 / 3:52 pm

    This is such a great post!!! I feel the same way, although there is bad in the world and I don’t sugar coat it, there is also good and that’s what we need to cling to and to be part of! Last weeks tragedy was so sad and I’m so sorry for all the families affected 💕

    • makinghermama
      30th May 2017 / 4:02 pm

      Sorry forgot to let you know I found you on #triumphanttales

  13. 30th May 2017 / 7:12 pm

    It’s hard. Anthony’s clinical psychologist once said to me to talk at the level your child can process. Explain at a level that is relevant and consumable. I’ve found this helps a lot when thinking about what to say. #triumphanttales

  14. 30th May 2017 / 8:53 pm

    Bless him, so innocent. At this age I suppose trying to explain the situation to him is not needed. It’s nice to see him understanding in his own way.
    #triumphanttales

  15. 30th May 2017 / 9:30 pm

    This is so perfectly put, I’m so glad Oliver isn’t old enough yet to understand #triumphanttales

  16. 30th May 2017 / 9:55 pm

    It’s so hard isn’t it as we have to continue to live our lives but it feels very scary. My daughter was a bit too young to ask questions and get it all thankfully but like you, won’e be long. I hope we won’t have to tell them much!! Thanks for hosting x

  17. Kiki
    30th May 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Lovely post. It was horrific knowing a child as young as 8 was killed at the concert. It really saddened me. I’m also thrilled your little boy filled you with pride. Children’s games are so innocent and black and white, why cant life be simple like their games? #TriumphantTales

  18. 30th May 2017 / 11:14 pm

    I just want to raise my kids in a bubble. #triumphantstales

  19. 31st May 2017 / 12:52 am

    Lovely post. It’s such a saddening thing to think about.

  20. 31st May 2017 / 7:17 pm

    Great post. It is a tough time. And because of that we dwell on sad times and hope for a better future for our kids.
    #TriumphantTales

  21. 31st May 2017 / 7:35 pm

    #triumphanttales i say (for whats its worth) don’t shield him – educate him slowly. So slow he doesn’t notice because at the same time he feels absolutely loved 🙂 thats all any of us can do, right?

  22. 31st May 2017 / 7:43 pm

    Brilliant post. Thankfully Molly is too young to understand any of this at the minute. I will try and shelter her from things like this as much as I can but I know one day she will ask questions, and I will have to answer. The innocence of childhood is being taken away by atrocious events like this. The Manchester arena is 20 minutes drive away from my house so it was very scary, and unfortunately 2 of the victims are from my home town. May they rest in peace. #TriumphantTales

  23. Mom Of Two Little Girls
    31st May 2017 / 7:47 pm

    The innocence of our children should be nurtured and treasured for as long as we can ‘get away with it’.

  24. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...
    31st May 2017 / 9:03 pm

    I explained to my children what had happened and focused on the good, the people that helped, the amazing work of the hospital staff etc. It is a scary world at the moment and I was them to know that love and good will triumph #triumphanttales

  25. thesingleswan
    31st May 2017 / 10:52 pm

    A lovely post. Poignant and beautiful. You should be proud of your Little Man and police offers are great. Encourage him to chase the burger robbers. Pen x #TriumphantTales

  26. 1st June 2017 / 8:29 am

    A lovely post. Sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed at the responsibility of bringing up children in such a scary world. Treasuring the innocence of childhood is so important. Thanks for sharing. #triumphanttales

  27. talkingmums1
    1st June 2017 / 12:02 pm

    It’s so easy to focus on the bad side to everything that happened and it makes me scared too but yes we should try to focus on the good, the people who came together, the response and the fantastic health service we have.
    #TriumphantTales

  28. 2nd June 2017 / 4:17 pm

    I feel anxious every time I get on an aeroplane, worrying about terrorist attacks. I’m certainly on a higher alert anywhere I go in the UK, test don’t worry about my personal safety living in Dubai.

    #TriumphantTales

  29. 2nd June 2017 / 8:37 pm

    I can imagine it’s difficult raising a child with such horrible things happening around them. My daughter is only 14 months old, but I do wonder how to go about explaining things to her. Thank you for joining us at #fortheloveofBLOG!

  30. 2nd June 2017 / 11:54 pm

    Lovely way of talking about such an awful event <3 I havent talked to the kids about it, they are too young and would just have nightmares. Plenty of time for all that but they both fight 'bad guys' too and I love how they have plans of how to beat them! If only life was so simple xxx #friyaylinky

  31. randommusings29
    3rd June 2017 / 12:54 pm

    Its a sad time that we live in when people do these things to each other, but like you say, there are more good people in the world than bad.
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂
    Debbie

  32. 4th June 2017 / 8:05 pm

    I am wiping the tears back, having probably read your post at the worst time. It’s happened again. This time back in London… again. It’s a scary place right now, and thank goodness for the good guys. If only it was just a scene played out on a play mat and far away from the horrible reality. A beautifully written post. Sad times. #Dreamteam xxx

    • Jaki
      4th June 2017 / 8:08 pm

      Oh I’m sorry I made you cry. It is such a horrible horrible time. Sending hugs xxx

  33. 5th June 2017 / 9:27 pm

    It’s a sad reflection on our world when our children are aware of this level of horrors in the world. I protect my youngest three from all of it, they have no clue whatsoever, but my eldest is very aware and more than that, he is very scared. I hate that I cant make this better for him, but we can reinforce the message that there is so much good in the world too. #triumphanttales

  34. 6th June 2017 / 8:11 pm

    It is such a sad time in our country right now. I’m just grateful my children are too young to understand and I don’t have to try and make sense of it to explain to them. We have to unite as a country and stay strong, I don’t know what else we can do.Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  35. 6th June 2017 / 9:21 pm

    Oh lovely this is so sad, especially given the circumstances since with London Bridge and Paris today. The world is becoming very dark and it is so sad that we have the task of raising our children in an unknown future for them. There really are no words =[ #fortheloveofblog

  36. 8th June 2017 / 8:43 pm

    Hi Jaki, It is simply horrible what is happening, and what we find ourselves explaining to the littles. The world is a very chaotic and sad place, and we need to bond together and heal with empathy and heart. Your little boy may just be the start of that. Encourage it. World need him! <3 #triumphanttales <3

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