A Mother’s Day Thank You

A Mother's Day Thank You

Mother’s Day really makes you think doesn’t it? To say I’ve changed since becoming a Mum is an understatement. I’ve written about Being Mum and Being Me and yes, of course, there is still a part of the old me there, because I’ve clung onto her, but as a whole, I have changed a great deal as a person.

I understand my own parents so much more now than I ever did. I understand every worry. I understand every disagreement. I understand that everything they ever did or said was because they wanted what was best for me. I get that now. It’s time I said a big thank you for everything my parents have ever done for me.

Wake up call

Anyone who is a regular to this blog will know that my Mum has Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma and three years ago she went through chemotherapy when the Cancer progressed. It was an awful time and anyone who has ever been in a similar situation will understand how powerless you feel.

The person that brought you up and was always there for you is now sick and frail and there is nothing you can do about it.

It was a huge wake-up call for me. Massive in fact. Thoughts crossed my mind that I didn’t want. What if the worst happened? What if I lost my Mum? I couldn’t imagine a life without her in it. It didn’t bear thinking about. It still doesn’t.

It was a really tough time for all of us and I am grateful every day that Mum came through it. Grateful that Mum is still here and well enough to enjoy her one and only Grandson. To spoil him rotten and completely dote on him. She loves him so much and it is very much reciprocated. The two of them together is the most beautiful site in the world.

The making of me

My Mum has made me the person I am today. I have many of her ways. I have her smile, her eyes, her nose, her hips! (Thanks, Mum!)  I am very much a mini-me. Sadly, I didn’t inherit her amazing cooking skills and I’m nowhere near as domesticated, but I have inherited the things that really matter.

I was never maternal. I was petrified at the thought of being a Mum. I didn’t know what I was doing. Mum showed me the way and helped me more than I ever could have imagined. When my husband was away with work when Little Man was just six weeks old and suffering from unbearable colic, Mum stayed up all night with me to help. I will never forget that. I could have been doing that alone, but I didn’t. She was right by my side.

She has taught me how to love utterly and completely. She has taught me how to put others before myself and how to make sure that my child has everything he needs.

She will likely say all these things come naturally as a parent. And she is probably right, but she showed me all of these qualities when I was growing up so I firmly believe that it is Mum that I have to thank. It’s Mum I have to thank for making me the Mum that I am today.

Always there

You never stop needing your Mum. We laughed the other day when I broke a tooth and I was really upset about it. All I wanted was to go and see my Mum and despite being the wrong side of 35, that’s exactly what I did. Mum’s just make everything better, no matter how old you are.

I see a lot of myself in my Mum and I see a lot of my Mum in my Little Man too. In fact, the first time I ever laid eyes on him, the second he was born, I saw Mum. Lots of people have said that too. It seems we both inherited her smile. All the more reason to use it more.

Mum has been through so much over the last few years. Too much. A lot of it has been out of our control but she’s also been through a lot that was unnecessary and this will forever make me very bitter. Life is too short and too precious for upset and unkindness, but unfortunately, some people don’t realise or appreciate this, but it’s their loss. It’s at times like this that I get to return the favour. It’s my turn to always be there.

Thank you, Mum

It shouldn’t take Mother’s Day to say thank you. I like to think I thank you often for all of the things that you say and do and for all of the help that you give me. From the little things like picking up shopping for me to the big things like babysitting and being a shoulder to cry on. I just feel like I don’t say it enough.

You are so special. You don’t deserve what you have been through over the past few years and I wish I could make it all go away. I would in a heartbeat, I hope you know that.

Just know that you are so very loved. By all of us and if I can be half the Mum to our Little Man as you have been to me and my Sister, then I will be doing an amazing job. Because I learned from the best.

So this Mothers Day, thank you, Mum, for being the best and for being you. We love you so very much.

 


 

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20 Comment

  1. Reply
    Folakemi
    13th March 2018 at 8:51 am

    Happy Mother’s Day to you and your lovely mom. Your message to your mom is so heart warming. There are many things I understood better only after becoming a mom myself. #triumphanttales

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    mummyhereandthere
    13th March 2018 at 9:50 am

    Beautiful words, motherhood is a wonderful gift X #triumphanttales

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    passion fruit, paws and peonies
    13th March 2018 at 10:37 am

    This is a beautiful tribute to your mum. She sounds like a wonderful woman x

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    Navigating Baby
    13th March 2018 at 11:39 am

    Lovely post. Mum’s do rock no matter how old you get. I just now called mine (I am 41) to ask her if I should enter a 10km race as I was nervous to do it!

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    Pass the wine please
    13th March 2018 at 1:06 pm

    What a beautiful post – I’m sure your mum is very proud of you and will really appreciate your lovely words xx #TriumphantTales

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    magicalmamablog
    13th March 2018 at 2:54 pm

    This is so sweet! You mom sounds like an abundant source of love and encouragement! People always seem to say “Oh no, I sound like my mother”…I really hope people also have the thought of “I hope I can measure up to my mother”. Mothers Day is such a wonderful holiday and I hope we can all thank our moms a little bit every day! Thanks for the encouraging and dear post!
    #TriumphantTales

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    viewfromthebeachchair
    13th March 2018 at 3:17 pm

    Stopping by from Triumphant Tales. I don’t know where I would be without my mom. She has been my rock for my whole life. #triumphanttales

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    Karen Dennis
    13th March 2018 at 6:09 pm

    This is written from the heart, I can tell, it’s beautiful #twinklytuesday@_karendennis

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    Lydia C. Lee
    13th March 2018 at 8:02 pm

    I love this post. There’s been a whole lot of Mother’s Day posts about ‘what can I get’ not what can I give, or celebrating being a mum, rather than celebrating your mother. I’ve found it really off putting (and perhaps an indictment on how self centred society has become.) This is a wonderful ode to your mother and a great reminder as to why we celebrate mother’s day. #TwinklyTuesday

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    Sleepingthroughyet
    13th March 2018 at 8:10 pm

    Ah wow that was a lovely post to read. Your mum sounds like she’s been through a lot, glad that she’s come out the other side and can enjoy her grandson, and she’s got you for support. Mums are the best! #familyfun

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    chickenruby
    14th March 2018 at 6:19 am

    Whilst I acknowledge Mother’s Day, Birthday, Christmas etc I don’t just leave it to these days to let me mum know I love her and am thinking of her and randomly send her gifts and letters throughout the year #triumphanttales

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    dearmummyblog
    14th March 2018 at 12:09 pm

    Aww this is very sweet and we feel the same way about my Grandma x agreed, it shouldn’t take one day to show how much you care x #familyFunLinky x

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    Laura Dove
    15th March 2018 at 10:54 pm

    Oh this is just gorgeous, your mum sounds amazing and the love you share is just so lovely! I feel the same way about my own Mum. #triumphanttales

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    aliduke79hotmailcom
    16th March 2018 at 2:50 pm

    This is a beautiful post. What a lovely relationship you have with your mum x
    #TriumphantTales

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    tammymum
    17th March 2018 at 6:01 pm

    Ah Jaki that is a lovely tribute to your mum. She sounds really special and you are very lucky to have that relationship. It is how I feel about my nan – she too helped me out on a few nights with a colic ridden baby. Thank you for joining us at #familyfun x

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    The Queen of Collage
    18th March 2018 at 3:53 pm

    So sorry to read about your mother’s condition. It’s lovely to read you have a great relationship with her. #TriumphantTales

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    Annette, 3 Little Buttons
    18th March 2018 at 9:08 pm

    Awwww Jaki! This was so heartfelt that it left me with a bit teary. Happy (belated) Mother’s Day. It’s one of those times where I always look at my own mum and think… I never truly appreciated her until I became a mother myself. Thanks so much for sharing this with us over on the #DreamTeam xxx

  18. Reply
    Jo - Pickle & Poppet
    18th March 2018 at 9:50 pm

    Ah this is lovely Jaki. I agree I understand where my parents were coming from when I was younger! #TriumphantTales

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    Topsy Turvy Tribe
    18th March 2018 at 10:06 pm

    Beautiful posts. Our mums are definitely treasures. Sounds like you have a great relationship with your mum too #triumphanttales

  20. Reply
    Kate (@Newmummykate)
    19th March 2018 at 1:38 pm

    This was lovely to read, it sounds like you and your Mum have a lovely relationship. Thanking for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday, hope you can link up again soon.

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