For My Little Man As He Starts ‘Big School’

4 September 2017 4 min read
For My Little Man As He Starts 'Big School'

To my beautiful Little Man

 

We all know how I love to document the special stages of your life and no doubt in years to come, when you read back over all of these, you will probably cringe a little. But I’m not going to apologise. I need to remember all of these moments, and I hope it gives you an insight into just how much you are loved and treasured.

 

I’ve known for the last few months that I would write this particular post and I knew exactly what day I would write it. Yet this time, part of me doesn’t want to write it. Because, little one. Mummy’s finding this one really hard.

 

Tomorrow you start at ‘big school’ and tonight as I put you to bed, it will be the end of an era for you and I.

 

For the last four and half nearly five years, my life has been all about you. From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep. And of course, that will remain as it will do for many, many years to come. But things will be different now. I won’t see you as much as I do now. I won’t have to rush home from work anymore. I won’t get those precious afternoons with you as I have done for the last four years. You will be elsewhere doing ‘big boy’ things.

 

You have grown up so much and it frightens me to think about how fast the time has gone since I held you in my arms for the very first time as a newborn, wondering how on earth I was going to do the whole ‘Mum’ thing. It’s no secret that I was never the maternal type and I was petrified. Petrified I was going to break you in some way, or do everything wrong. And whilst it hasn’t been easy because being a parent isn’t, you have made it so easy for me to love you in a way that I never knew possible.

 

You have brought out the best in me. I found my calling when I found you.

 

For My Little Man As He Starts 'Big School'

 

The thing is Little Man. I know you are ready for school. More than ready. You are excited, whilst nervous. I can see that. And I know you are going to do brilliantly. But whilst I know all of this. I hate to say it, but, Mummy’s not ready.

 

I’m going to miss you so much. Even though I know I will be collecting you from the school gates every day to the same big cuddle I always get when I come home to you. I’m struggling with the fact that you are growing so fast and time is passing us by so quickly. Where did my baby go?

 

I won’t lie. I have been extremely emotional this week. I’m reluctantly getting your school things ready. Preparing your school uniform with a heavy heart. Sorting out lunch boxes whilst mentally searching for the pause button. And I know I can’t stop this and I really shouldn’t want to. Because it’s your time. But I can’t help it. No matter how hard I try. I just wish I could keep you at home with me for that little bit longer. Just you and me.

 

But you are growing up Little Man. You are clever, funny and intelligent and I know that you need this now. I have seen such a change in you over the last couple of weeks. You are such amazing company and your erratic behaviour has settled down and it seems somehow cruel that this happens now that I won’t be with you as much to enjoy that side of you.

 

I know we are only talking about a couple of extra hours a day, but to me, it feels like so much more. I know I am being silly and I tell myself this all the time. But equally, I know I need to feel these things. Because it’s these feelings that remind me that I am a good Mummy to you. Despite the doubts I frequently have. I know I am a good Mummy because I care THIS much.

 

I realise that I won’t feel like this forever. But at the moment I do. Just know sweetheart that I have never been more proud of you as I am today. My Little Man is starting big school and is at the start of his next adventure.

 

So the time has come to send you on your way with school bag and lunch box in hand to start on this next journey. I will be smiling with encouragement and waving you good bye with the promise of a huge hug when the bell rings. But inside I will feel a little empty for a short while.

 

Mummy loves you so much, Little Man. Don’t ever forget it. Now, go enjoy yourself. Have fun. Don’t think about missing me, just go and do the best you can at everything and Mummy will be right here waiting for you. Every day. For always.

 

See you at the school gates beautiful.

 

Mummy xxx

 

 

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78 Comments

  • For the love to 5 September 2017 at 02:46

    This is just the sweetest letter…. I totally feel the same way mama…. I little princess is heading to school in the next couple of days for the first time and I can’t stop the feeling of loneliness.
    #FamilyFunLinky.

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 19:12

      Thank you. We all survived! If it makes you feel any better, I’m sure the build up is worse than the actual day! I was still rushing to the school gate though! 🙂

  • mummy2twindividuals 5 September 2017 at 09:16

    This has me choked up. I’m about two years away from this moment and yet yet it still feels like life is rushing by in a blur. If you find that pause button, let me know. #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 19:05

      Ah bless you. It does go so fast! Thank you.

  • bellfrombow 5 September 2017 at 09:19

    I’m a year away from this but nervous already… #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 19:04

      Just make the most of this last year. It goes so fast!

  • Topsy Turvy Tribe 5 September 2017 at 10:16

    Aaaah bless, such am emotional post tippy cam feel the love in every word. My eldest goes to school this Sept too. It really is going to bbq much tougher on me than it is on him! I’m sure we will get used to it eventually 😂#triumphanttales

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 19:03

      I really hope so. It feels easier knowing day one is done and dusted. Thank you.

  • tammymum 5 September 2017 at 13:02

    Oh gosh it must be so so emotional. I don’t envy you lovey but it will be my time next year and I will no doubt be feeling all of this. It does feel like an end of era doesn’t it!? I hope he has a fabulous first day and settles in well – I hope you do too #triumphanttales x

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 18:59

      It well well thank you lovely. I am relieved the first day is over. I swear the build up is worse than the actual day!

  • kerry 5 September 2017 at 13:58

    Awww this post is beautiful!! Hope he enjoys his first day, my little man has been counting down the days until he starts year 2, he loves school.

    #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 18:58

      That must make life so much easier! Today went well thank you!

  • mummyhereandthere 5 September 2017 at 16:17

    Awwww beautiful, I hope the day goes good for both of you X #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 18:56

      Thank you. It went well. I’m relieved the first day is over!

  • Fridgesays 5 September 2017 at 19:54

    #triumphanttales okay, i was fine until..’ see you at the gates beautiful’ then i wept, i need to drink something more than a camomile tea lol! hope it went well lovely. what a day, I’m shattered

    • Jaki 5 September 2017 at 20:24

      Go grab yourself a gin!! It went better than I could have hoped. I have a happy boy and I’m, a relieved Mumma. I hope it went well for you too! Sending hugs xx

  • Jo - Pickle & Poppet 5 September 2017 at 21:15

    This is just beautiful and such a lovely photo of you both #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 13:06

      Thank you. It is a lovely shot, isn’t it? One of my favourites 🙂

  • pinkiebag 5 September 2017 at 21:46

    Gosh what an emotional post. I hope that the first day at school went well #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 13:06

      It did thank you. Long may it continue! I’m still adapting! 🙂

  • Sarah 5 September 2017 at 21:53

    Aww lovely. This is making me emotional. No doubt I’ll feel the same next year. How did he get on? xxx

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 13:05

      Thanks lovely, he did great! 🙂 X

  • aliduke79hotmailcom 6 September 2017 at 10:02

    This is lovely. You do feel such a gap in your life when they start school. I am sure he will love school x
    #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 13:04

      Dare I say it, so far so good?! Thank you.x

  • talkingmums1 6 September 2017 at 13:35

    It’s such a big step Jaki. I vividly remember walking her to school on her first day feeling like it was the end of an era. She was going off into someone else’s care 5 days a week and I felt like she was being taken away from me! She was more than ready and loved it and now I’m ok with it, I look forward to the holidays though. How did it go? x
    #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 21:46

      It went well thank you. Each day will get a little easier, it’s just weird not getting to spend that much time with him. The weekends will be so precious now 🙂 X

  • Tips from Toni 6 September 2017 at 14:27

    I love the way you put your feelings into words, and know that someday your son will love having this to read.

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 21:45

      Thank you, I do hope so. 🙂

  • jeremy@thirstydaddy 6 September 2017 at 14:43

    very sweet Jaki. I had a really hard time when mine started full day school last year. This year I was counting down the days! #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 21:44

      Thank you! 🙂

  • Nicole 6 September 2017 at 16:19

    All the best to you both… here’s to a new era, as you put it.
    #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 17:39

      Thank you. That’s kind.

  • tammymum 6 September 2017 at 17:05

    Just popping back to say thanks for joining at #familyfun and I am glad the first day went well, I hope it stays that way xx

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 17:38

      Thanks lovely. Me too! X

  • Helen Porter 6 September 2017 at 20:49

    what a lovely letter I feel the same about my boys and i miss them terribly while they are at school plus I have the added weekends that they spend at there dads I feel like I never get to spend quality time with them I think when they start school they really change but most of it is for the greater good #fortheloveofblog

    • Jaki 6 September 2017 at 21:47

      He is loving it so far, I just hope it stays that way. Such a big change. X

  • Kat 7 September 2017 at 09:18

    Ah beautiful post, I hope he had a lovely first day at school! #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:07

      He did thank you 🙂

  • collette dunn 7 September 2017 at 10:45

    How lovely! Made me cry a little. All my children are at school now. My girls are in year two and it’s amazing how much they’ve grown in the last two years, especially when you see how small the new reception children are! #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:07

      He seems to have changed so much in the two weeks leading up to it, I just know he will grow so fast now! Thank you. X

  • Hayley @Mission: Mindfulness 7 September 2017 at 15:47

    Awwww what a beautifully written, heartfelt letter. I hope the first day went really well for you both. I remember dropping my eldest off a couple of years ago like it was yesterday! xx #ablogginggoodtime

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:05

      It went well thank you. So far so good – I knew he would be fine, it’s just me that’s been emotional. I just hope he keeps enjoying it! X

  • RainbowsR2Beautiful (@rainbowsaretoo) 7 September 2017 at 16:13

    Will be right there – Jane, our youngest, starts in a week. #coolmumclub

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:03

      Oh good luck to you! The build up is worse, I’m sure! X

  • Lucy At Home 7 September 2017 at 16:37

    This step is a big one – it really does feel like the end of an era. I still miss my big girl when she is in school, but it does get easier, especially as they start to tell you all about the fun they’re having. I hope he’s settling in well and that you are starting to adjust to the change #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:03

      I’m already enjoying hearing about his day! 🙂

  • Ray 7 September 2017 at 18:47

    Aw this is beautiful to read, mine has just started big school too and I don’t know what I’m going to do with myself when he’s starting to do full days next week! #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:03

      It’s hard isn’t it? You take them for granted when they’re around all the time! Good luck!

  • mamagrace 7 September 2017 at 19:01

    I don’t eat him to go now! But I do, but I don’t. It’s so lovely to have so much love. What a journey you are describing for the both of you, captured so well. #TriumphantTales

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:02

      Thank you. It’s been an emotional week, to say the least!

  • chickenruby 7 September 2017 at 19:57

    oh bless this is lovely, i really hope he is enjoying being in school #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:01

      So far, so good – thank you! 🙂

  • mummuddlingthrough 7 September 2017 at 21:23

    Ah, this brought back so many memories of how I felt last year. For what it’s worth, a year on I couldn’t be prouder of how far we’ve come, She’s reading, writing, growing fast…and yet the holidays come round so quick and often that they never really feel too far away. These growing minds need the space and time to develop, and whilst it’s bitter sweet, the best is yet to come xx
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

    • Jaki 7 September 2017 at 22:00

      Thank you lovely, that’s really reassuring! 🙂

  • Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... 7 September 2017 at 22:44

    Such a rollercoaster of emotions! Anya starts on Monday, she is more than ready for it as she is a September baby but I’m not ready for her to grow up! #triumphanttales

    • Jaki 10 September 2017 at 20:04

      I know exactly how you feel! I hope it goes well tomorrow. Good luck! X

  • Becky, Cuddle Fairy 8 September 2017 at 11:28

    Aww what a heartfelt post! It’s so hard to see them head off to school but at the same time it’s a blessing to watch them grow up & develop! Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggerClubUK

    • Jaki 10 September 2017 at 20:00

      This is exactly it! He has a great first week, I’m hoping the second week goes just as well! X

  • dearmummyblog 8 September 2017 at 14:57

    What a sweet letter! I start school on Monday and my mummy is feeling emotional already! Popping over from #SharingtheBlogLove #DreamTeam #TwinklyTuesday

    • Jaki 14 September 2017 at 19:15

      Awwww! I hope you had a wonderful time! 🙂

  • randommusings29 8 September 2017 at 15:55

    Aww this is lovely. You must be so torn emotionally – sad that your baby is growing up, but proud of the person he is growing into
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂
    Debbie

    • Jaki 10 September 2017 at 19:59

      Absolutely! He made me very proud last week. Fingers crossed for this week!

  • Imperfect Mum (@imperfectmumx) 8 September 2017 at 16:34

    This is so beautiful. I love how you said you have found your calling… such a great way to describe it! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    • Jaki 10 September 2017 at 19:59

      Thank you. He made me very proud last week!

  • So Happy In Town (@SoHappyInTown) 10 September 2017 at 21:23

    This is a beautiful post. It’s such a change for both you and him and I’ve struggled when all three of mine started. End of an era but start of a new journey. #AnythingGoes

    • Jaki 11 September 2017 at 16:18

      Thank you! So far, so good! Fingers crossed it remains that way! 🙂

  • susielhawes 11 September 2017 at 13:54

    Aww man, the pregnancy hormones are getting me! Beautifully written.Hope he got on ok and you both adjust well. xx #FamilyFun

    • Jaki 11 September 2017 at 16:17

      Thank you. So far, so good! Although I’m not tempting fate! 🙂

  • Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons 11 September 2017 at 20:37

    What a beautiful letter! I hope he had a great start to the school year and it’s not been as difficult for you as you feared. I have to admit I’m dreading this time next year when my tiny little boy will start school. I’m sure it’s a mistake – he’s never going to be ready! (Or I suppose what I really mean is, I’ll never be ready!) Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Jaki 12 September 2017 at 19:07

      Thank you lovely. If anything, I would say the build up is so much worse than the actual thing! Just make the most of this last year, it goes super fast! X

  • dearbearandbeany 12 September 2017 at 10:24

    Beautiful! My eldest daughter started school last year and I felt like I was loosing part of her, which I did. I handed her over and I the same girl was never returned. It’s such a big milestone in their little life. Sending all the hugs! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Jaki 12 September 2017 at 19:02

      It’s huge isn’t it?! Thanks so much!

  • bridiebythesea 12 September 2017 at 12:00

    Oh lovely this is so beautiful! Hope it’s all been going well – sounds like you have such a beautiful bond <3 Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam x

    • Jaki 12 September 2017 at 19:01

      Thanks lovely, so far so good! Fingers crossed it stays that way! X

  • Kelly Edwards 12 September 2017 at 19:24

    Such an emotional time. Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofblog

    • Jaki 14 September 2017 at 18:25

      Thank you! 🙂

  • Emma T 15 September 2017 at 21:30

    I think kids starting school is such a great milestone, and so exciting for them Hope it’s gone well for him #sharingthebloglove

    • Jaki 17 September 2017 at 08:46

      So far, so good, thank you 🙂

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