We are in the midst of Summer (apparently!), also known as ‘wedding season’! I love a good wedding and this year we are lucky enough to have been invited to THREE! We went to one just last weekend and have another one in just under three weeks time!
Attending weddings always reminds me of my own. This is inevitable. It brings back all of the happy memories of what was a fabulous day. All of the excitement from the build up and of course, the memories of all of the planning. Our wedding was two years in the making and once you have done it you know only too well just how much hard work and preparation goes in to planning one of the most exciting days of your life.
As soon as you get that engagement ring on your finger if you are anything like me you will be nose-diving into the nearest wedding magazine to start the whole wedding planning process! From choosing your colour scheme to picking the bridesmaids dresses and of course not forgetting your very own wedding dress – quite possibly every girls dream! I suppose we should mention the men’s suits too, we can’t forget about them!
It’s an exciting time and whilst all the obvious things are usually covered, it can be easy to forget about the little things you may not consider. Do you need to consider a prenuptial agreement? A lot of people think this is just for wealthy people, or celebrity couples. But more and more people are getting them these days to protect themselves should things not work out. The firm that I work for has a brilliant little video that may help you approach the subject with your partner (which you may feel is tricky or awkward!), you can check it out here.
Wedding planning can take up a lot of time. As I said earlier, ours took two years, with a lot of things needing to be booked plenty of time in advance. As the wedding day itself approaches, it can be easy to forget what to expect on the day and so I asked some of my fellow bloggers for some tips that they have learned in hindsight of their own wedding.
Lianne from Mrs Mummy Harris suggested to “Make sure you’ve confirmed your DJ. I got an email at 2am on the day of the wedding asking if I still needed him!”
“Confirm everyone the week of the wedding,” says Alice from Living With A Jude. “Other than that, just relax and don’t over think everything. In the couple of weeks running up to the wedding, I was largely thinking about whether I wanted to change my name or not! We were so chilled about organising our wedding because our attitude was that we wanted it to be a really relaxed and happy event. We wanted our guests to relax and feel they could let their hair down without upsetting any schedules”
Jemma from Mayflower Blogs asks “Do you actually want certain people there or are you just inviting them because you feel you have to? Don’t do anything that you’ll regret later on. You only get one wedding day.”
Similarly, Jo from Miracle Max says “It’s important to remember who’s day it is. Everyone will have an opinion on how you should do things, or who should be invited, but you need to remember it’s your day so you’re entitled to plan it your way”.
“Consider how long something is going to be seen or appreciated for to put the cost of it in context,” says Natalie from Confessions Of A Crummy Mummy. “For example spending £600 on a cake that’s going to be seen for 10 minutes seems silly whereas £1,000 on a dress that will be seen all day is actually quite reasonable!
“Think about how formal and traditional you’d like your wedding to be,” says Jodie from Maidenhead Mum “For example we wanted it to be very chilled and asked the registrar to mention at the beginning that everyone was free to take photos and share. We’d even got a Facebook wedding group set up for everyone. Contrast this to other weddings I’ve been at where they had a formal announcement at the beginning about no photography. Or you might want to specify that you don’t want people to share photos on social media unless you have. A good thing to think about before your best friend posts pictures of you in your dress and you didn’t want her to.”
Lisa from Bare Mother says to think ahead about your thank you cards! “We married in Australia, left for our honeymoon shortly after (6 week US road trip), then returned home to England with best intentions. By the time I got around to it people had moved and I couldn’t find my final list of attendees. I’m that terrible person who didn’t send anything!”
“Ask your guests to take loads of videos/photos. It’s often that they get shots the formal photographers often miss. Some of my favourite pics are informal ones friends took” says Beth from Twinderelmo.
If you already have children, Alex from Lamb & Bear has a great tip – “Who will be in charge of your children during the ceremony. Once that’s decided to make sure the groom gives them any comforters they will want while they can’t be held, by mummy or daddy. My husband completely forgot our sons favourite doggy and dummy and he cried the whole way through. I was actually whispering “where’s his dummy?” I didn’t actually mind the crying, he’s part of the wedding after all. But the dummy would have helped!”
My favourite of all the tips I received and one I was going to suggest myself comes from Katie who blogs at Katie On Thin Ice. “Ensuring that you plan in time to breathe, relax and enjoy it – best tip I was given!” I agree with this whole heartedly and is the one thing I always tell friends that are getting married. It’s so important to disappear for a short while, even if it is just for ten minutes with your new husband or wife and just spend it together on your own. To take it all in. The day goes by in such a speedy blur, it’s good to take a short time out together. Hell, even take a selfie while you’re there to remember the moment!
So there you are. 10 top tips from brides who have been there and done it! We all know how stressful wedding planning can be, but enjoy it! After the wedding, you will wonder what to do with all of your spare time. So make the most of it and don’t get too stressed. It will all work out okay in the end!
Are you getting married soon and has this article helped you? Perhaps you are already married and have some more tips for our beautiful bride to be readers! Leave a comment below, we’d love to read them!
Thank you to all of the bloggers that contributed to this article.