It’s that time again guys! This time my guest post is aimed at new Mums! So if you are one, be sure to have a mosey at this post. Love To Style is a website run by Claire Praom who is a Style Consultant. I’ll let her tell you all about herself and how she can help you. Keep reading…!
Born in France I came to the UK with the view of staying for one year to perfect my English, but after falling in love with my other half and two children later, I’m still in Swindon and now a Personal Stylist and founder of Lovetostyle.com!
When I read some of Jaki’s blogs I really related to them because let’s face it most of us, have to juggle between work, kids and chores so we experience quite a lot of daily stress.
Talking about anxiety of travelling with children, I’ve been in a similar situation, driving on my own to France with a four-year-old and an eight month old baby and I would say to this day that it’s probably right up there in my list of worse worried moments but guess what? It all went well!
Anyway the reason why Jaki kindly accepted for me to share this blog with you is because I’ve experienced the pains of early motherhood and looking good!
In fact, I trained as an Image Consultant (Personal Stylist) in 2008 when my daughter was one. And what led me to this change of career is because I went from being a confident stylish Sales woman to this exhausted and pretty depressed new mum without family support (both families are miles away!). I started to feel less confident during my pregnancy and it continued after the birth of Zara. I personally think that the choice of clothes back then was not fantastic which didn’t help and it was either too baggy, frumpy, not smart enough to meet customers or if it was really nice it was super expensive. Also I think I was struggling to accept my body changing because I had always been this very slim person. Another thing that some of you may have felt is that I had spent my twenties building a successful career and was always used to wear smart business clothes. It suddenly felt really strange to wear only casual clothing and to adapt to my new body, oh and a constant screaming colicky baby!!!
Here are a few tips I want to share with you as I want to save you months of feeling like you don’t look good and you lost your identity.
- The first one for the New mums, take some fresh air with your baby. Leave all the mess and get out there, even for just 30min, as I remember that really helped me when I stopped stressing out about all the chores that were not done and also Zara usually calmed down and fell asleep. Plus it makes you do some exercise which is great.
- Don’t worry if you don’t fit in your old clothes straight away, the weight will go once you go back to your normal routine. So keep all the clothes you used to love and put them safely in a box away from your current wardrobe because it clutters it and it’s depressing to look at clothes you can no longer wear. You don’t have to go through all your wardrobe at this stage, unless you have time.
- Buy yourself few items that you love. A lot of women don’t want to spend any money on clothes after the birth because they think it’s a waste of money. So they end up wearing clothes they don’t feel great in for months! It’s proven that our image has an overall effect on how we feel about ourselves.
When we feel we are presenting ourselves well we gain in confidence and self-esteem. This is called the cycle of success:
Looking Good > Self-Worth & Confidence > Positive Self-Image > Improved Relationships > Improved Performance
- Avoid Leggings or tight trousers if you don’t have a great figure, as they are really unflattering or wear them with a nice top to hide your imperfections. Baggy “tent” like tops are not stylish neither. You’re better off with a fluid top close to the body than something that make looks you bigger than you truly are.
- Prepare your clothes in the evening. I tend to look at the weather app on my phone and think of what I’m going to do that day and take the clothes out so in the morning I don’t have to think about it.
- Mascara, BB cream and lipstick or gloss are all the things you need to feel like a woman! Everyone can probably master that in less than 2 minutes.
- Accessories are brilliant! They can turn a simple look to a stylish outfit by just adding a necklace or a scarf. By making an effort, it will not only give a great impression of yourself to the rest of the world but most likely win you some compliments which in return will make you feel great about yourself. Also the great thing about accessories is that you can be quite trendy without breaking the bank.
The secrets to dress up well are to know your body shape and your “Style Personality”, like you go to the dentist if you have a toothache or the doctor if you have an infection, if you need help with your Image you should consider booking a Style Consultation. People think it’s a luxury when actually research shows that the average woman in the UK has at least 22 garments in her wardrobe she never wears which comes approximately £300. A style consultation is really an investment in yourself as you’ll know what looks great on you and what suits your personality, saving you money over the years and a lot of time.
You can download my free report on “What to Wear According to Your Colours and Body Shape” here: fashiontipsforsuccess.com
As always, a huge thank you goes out to my guest bloggers for giving me such wonderful content to publish, and Claire no different. I think this could be really useful, to many Mums out there and I really hope you enjoyed it. Leave us some comments below and let us know what you think.
Thank you for reading.