Why do we stress so much…?

 

I found myself asking this question very recently. If you’re a regular reader of this blog then you will know that a few weeks ago I was getting myself all worked up in a tiz about going away with my three year old. The day came and I was still worked up. Stressing myself to the hilt. Nothing anyone said made a difference. Nothing I told myself made a difference. My brain wouldn’t relax about it so neither could I. I just had to deal with it.

I knew I was being silly because I was stressing myself out really about something I couldn’t control. Yes I could be prepared and yes I could do as much as I could do to make sure everything went smoothly but at the end of the day that is all I could do. What will be will be. I couldn’t predict the outcome. So why stress about it?

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It’s not just that occasion. I find myself getting stressed about lots of different things. Phoning the doctors. Going out somewhere I’m unsure of. Buying presents for people when I don’t know what to get. Getting stressed with other people and situations I’m not happy with. Winding myself up with the frustration of it all. Even though when these things happen, I do everything I can for the best possible outcome it seems that in my little brain, that is just not good enough. Something in there won’t let it go and keeps on niggling at me, working me up and stressing me out. Even though there is nothing else I can do to change the outcome of the situation, I still stress.

Is it the lack of control? Is it that I feel I haven’t done enough (even though I have?!) Is it that I have an issue with anxiety and don’t know it? (The thought has crossed my mind but because I don’t have panic attacks I just put it down to being a stress head!) I don’t know the answer but I have learned one thing over the last few weeks, and that I need to chill the fudge out.

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I’m sure I’m not alone with this and I do think that it has increased ten fold since becoming a Mum. Perhaps it was the influx of hormones and new found emotions within me. But why do we do it? Why do we stress so much over the little things?

I’ve spent far too much time worrying and stressing about things that aren’t worth my time and energy (or fine lines for that matter). Because when all is said and done, does it really matter? What will be will be and as long as I’ve done the best I can do, then I can do no more. This is what I have to keep telling myself.

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Please do feel free to remind me of this next time you see me tweeting about something I’m stressed about, feel free to give me a kick up the backside!

Thanks as always for reading.

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What do you stress about and how do you take back the control? Tell me your secrets.

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9 Comments

  1. 1st July 2016 / 2:36 pm

    Is this post written about me?
    Haha.
    Honestly, I stress about the most stupidest things. I find taking a few minutes to myself, just shut myself away for 5 minutes, breathe. Relax. Helps me overcome it 🙂
    Sarah xxx
    http://www.whimsicalmumblings.co.uk #FriYAYLinky

  2. 1st July 2016 / 8:46 pm

    I find stress comes in waves…TIDAL WAVES! We are our own worst enemies but I think it comes with the territory…we just wanna get stuff done right?!
    Thanks for joining us over at #coolmumclub

  3. 3rd July 2016 / 7:57 pm

    I think it’s really hard to not stress sometimes.So much easier said than done. I think as long as you are aware of it and take active steps to relax and not worry it will get there. Definitely think it is a lack of control thing and becoming Mums. Kids eh? Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

    • 5th July 2016 / 8:51 pm

      Thank you. I think you’re either a stress head or you’re not! One day at a time. Thanks for reading 🙂 x

  4. 4th July 2016 / 2:37 pm

    I definitely think it can’t be helped sometimes, but you just have to take a step back and think ‘calm down, breathe and fuck it whatever happens happens!’ I used to really worry when my boy had a tantrum when out and you get the ‘looks’ from other people but now I’m like screw you all, you don’t even exists lol! x #BloogerClubUK

    • 5th July 2016 / 8:52 pm

      Haha I like it. I must take that attitude in future. Thank you for reading 🙂 x

  5. 5th July 2016 / 10:16 pm

    I must admit I do worry more at the moment, I do wonder how I’m going to cope when I go back to work… As I type this I’m thinking about going out tomorrow printing tickets off, remembering certain things… Etc etc and I can feel my blood pressure rising. I’ve assumed it’s hormonal as Kipper is only 8 weeks old. I’m hoping it will settle down! Let me know if you find any ways of chilling out. Thanks for joining us at #bloggerclubuk hope to see you again this week

  6. 12th August 2016 / 9:36 pm

    I feel like this could have been written about me! Thank you so much for sharing. I completely relate to what you are saying. I hope you find a way to keep stress at bay. I am trying but I am not always successful! X

    • Jaki
      15th August 2016 / 8:05 pm

      Thank you for your comment – sorry that you have the same problems as me! Hopefully we will overcome them one day 🙂

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