I wasn’t sure which way I was going to head with this week’s Wednesday Wisdom. There hadn’t been anything spectacular that had enthralled me or rattled my cage that had inspired me. Until today.
Today I was linking up to my favourite linky’s and working my way through the fabulous posts on offer when I came to one that really struck a chord. I was reading “I Wish You Hadn’t Found Me” by Bridie By The Sea.
Bridget is such a lovely person and I was really saddened to read about the awful bullying she had experienced when she was younger at school. It wasn’t until I was commenting on her post that the inspiration hit me, out of nowhere. And so here we are with this week’s words of wisdom.
I have experienced bullying in the past. Not the obvious kind. Not the name calling and the teasing and the post it notes stuck on your back kind. But a real clever kind. A manipulative kind. It was sly smirks, and sarcastic comments to others. It was talking behind my back, that wasn’t quite so ‘behind my back’ as it should have been. It was making me feel inferior and stupid in front of others. And all of this wasn’t even when I was at school, it was when I was at work, when in all honesty, the ‘bullies’ should have known better.
Looking back I honestly believe that my ‘bully’ didn’t even know they were doing it. At the time I didn’t know what I was doing to deserve all of this and I used to go home to my family and they would tell me that it was obvious. My bully was jealous.
I couldn’t see it. What was there to be jealous of? I was no better than they were. (But in hindsight I was – because I wasn’t a bully!) How could jealously possibly be the cause of this horrendous time I was experiencing?
It got to the point that I couldn’t cope with it anymore. I ended up leaving the job before even finding another one. I had completely had enough.
Years down the line and this person has recently become a friend on Facebook (I know, I’m too soft!) and I think the truth has finally come to the surface and it appears that my family were right. In the short time that we have been ‘friends’ on Facebook, I have lost count of the times that I have had comments from them telling me how stunning, or beautiful, or gorgeous I am. Telling me how lovely my family is. Telling me how great my blog is and how I am so lucky to have the life I have. Could this person really be jealous? It is kind of seeming that way.
I am by no means big headed and generally shun away from compliments, brushing them off, and this is why I always find it difficult to accept that someone could be jealous of me. But if they were (and maybe still are) jealous of me. Why does it have to turn into such hatred and such nastiness?
The whole experience has made me a stronger person. I won’t take shit from anyone anymore. If someone has a problem, or is being unkind, I will tell them to say it to my face, and if they can’t? Then that says more about them than it does me. It has made me more confident and I certainly try to think more highly of myself than I used to. I mean, if someone can be jealous of me, then I must be an alright person, right?
So, after all of that waffling, it brings me to this week’s short, simple and straight to the point quote:
People only throw rocks at things that shine”.
And it’s as simple as that.
I hope if you’re reading this and you can resonate, that it might help shed a little light, or make you feel better about the situation you may have experienced. To end with another quote, “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger”.
See you next week. x
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