The next instalment in my Guest Blogger Series comes from fellow Midlands Mummy Blogger Sarah who blogs over at Tammymum. We’re going to jump straight in this week and let Sarah introduce herself.
Hello, I’m Sarah. Mum of two tiny tinkers with just 11 months between them. Lawyer turned writer. The owner of Tammymum – an honest but heartfelt family & lifestyle blog with a penchant for travel and a passion for style – both in your home and your wardrobe. I am your typical mum cliche drinking coffee and wine, wearing sunglasses and always taking photos…
You Won’t Make Me Feel Bad
Readers of my blog will know we are no strangers to a holiday. We are entering the 6 month of the year and have embarked on 4 already. Our one and two year old have been on more flights in their little lives than some people have ever. I am not bragging, it is just how it is. Our children are not at school yet and my partner’s work gives him flexibility so we are fortunate enough to be able to jet off at a moments notice. So we do. Yet of late our lifestyle choices have been brought into question. The number of holidays we take, the fact I write about them, we publish them on social media, the fact I dared to complain about some of said holidays I am privileged enough to take.
That said, I have said it before and I will say it again, one holiday in Menorca was so damn awful I shudder to think about it. There. I said it again.
Yet I am not supposed to complain right? I was lucky enough to be on holiday. I wasn’t in the office, I wasn’t battling the infamous British Summer, or lack thereof, solo whilst my partner was at work. What an ungrateful cow huh?
The thing is though, I will not apologise and I will not feel bad. Yes, we are fortunate to be able to go on holiday, but the term holiday is much of a misnomer. Because really the one and two-year-old combo are hard work, in this country or a sunnier one. They do not appreciate what a holiday is. They are not interested in chilling on a sun lounger, having a leisurely meal or exploring the local surroundings. The things we, or I, associate with holidays. The days are still very much dictated by the small ones, we still get up at the time they choose, we still spend the days making them happy, choosing activities for them, working around their nap times, and so on.
Raising children is hard, raising two small children is very hard. It requires an incomparable level of selflessness. I know I am supposed to treasure every moment, but like many of the so say ‘slummy mummy’s’ out there I appreciate that not every moment is special. Some are infuriating and some mind-numbingly boring.
Some, however, are priceless. Some moments in this country or abroad are just so bloody special it makes all the bad moments pale into insignificance.
Now I know we don’t need to be on holiday to have these special moments. The difference, however, or what is most special about these holidays and these moments is that we are there as a family. I am not parenting alone whilst Mr Tammy works all the hours.
When we are not on holiday he is not good at taking time off. He works for himself and time off means no pay. He doesn’t have a weekend, we don’t have a weekend, some weeks he doesn’t even have a day off. So those ‘holidays’, those weeks in the sun, ‘living the life’, that I write about, moan about, and post on social media, they are well earned. They are deserved and for us, they are when we get to be together as a family. My children get to spend time with their father, I get to spend time with my partner, real time not just the few hours before we crash out each night. I know it might not make sense to a lot of people but it works for us and I will not be made to feel bad about it.
What is more, we are in new surroundings, my children are in new places, broadening their horizons. They will not be brought up afraid of flying, they will approach new places, new experiences, new cultures and new foods with open arms. It is my hope that this level of travel from an early age will help to raise them to be open minded in every sense of the word. I am not saying this is the only way to raise your children with an open mind but again, it works for us.
So I won’t apologise for putting photos of our beachside cocktails on social media. I won’t apologise for writing about our getaways and I won’t be made to feel bad for moaning when they aren’t always perfect. This is how we choose to spend our family time, whilst we can and shame on anyone who judges me for doing so. Live and let live.
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Big thanks to Sarah for guest posting this week. I love the honesty in this post and the moral of the story is clear. We should never judge others. It’s not smart or clever. Everyone has a right to enjoy life how they see fit and shouldn’t come under the scrutiny of others. Sarah – don’t forget to grab your ‘featured on’ badge from the bottom of the page.
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