Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child – Zara Lewis

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child – Zara Lewis

It’s guest post time already. These fortnightly instalments sure make the time go really quickly, don’t they?! This week we are hearing from Zara Lewis who is discussing how to find the right parenting style for you and your child.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis

Zara Lewis is a mum, fitness & yoga enthusiast and a regular writer for High Style Life. She is devoted to implementing healthy life habits in every aspect of the life of her family and friends. She loves to share her parenting tips and is always open to learning some new skills because she sees her parenthood as going to school forever. She enjoys travelling, hiking, cycling and baking.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis
Before you get into reading and analysing the characteristics of four main types of parenting styles, it’s essential to mention that there’s no one right style. As a parent, I became aware that a child can show many different types of behaviour that don’t always fall into one definite category and the way you deal with that cannot be achieved with only one specific parenting style if you wish your child to learn and grow up properly. In that respect, each of the following four parenting styles has something important to offer you.

Authoritarian Parenting

Discipline, rules, discipline and some more rules. You basically get the gist of Authoritarian parenting style. This type of behaviour towards your child involves exposing your child to a set of rules that they need to follow unconditionally. Unfortunately, most of the time, there’s a lack of explanation as to why these rules are so important to follow. If a parent is completely devoted to this type of parenting, children will probably grow up to be very diligent and obedient, but they will almost surely lack the much-needed self-esteem for proper socialisation. In some cases, rebellious phase in teen years can get out of control. Rules are definitely very important for a child, but if they spend their entire childhood feeling pressured, that won’t be a healthy environment to grow up in.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis

Authoritative Parenting

Even though they share a similar name, Authoritative parenting style greatly differs from Authoritarian parenting. Actually, most people would agree that this type of parenting is probably the best option for a healthy, happy and successful child. It also involves setting up rules that need to be followed, but the strictness and punishments characteristic of Authoritarian parenting are not there. Instead, children are given reasons and explanations for the importance of certain rules, they are encouraged to overcome obstacles with positive reinforcement and generally treated as capable and responsible. In theory, this type of parenting would allow your child to grow into a confident and cheerful adult, able to analyse different situations and solve problems. Still, it is one of the most difficult styles to follow through in practice since it requires utmost patience and devotion from a parent.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis

Permissive Parenting

Permissive, indulgent or attachment parenting all stand for one specific pattern of parenting style. In this case, parents usually opt for a role of a friend more than that of a parent. The lack of discipline is obvious, which can foster some bad behavioural habits in a child later on. Still, this type of parenting is perfect for bonding in early years. Showering your child with unconditional love as they are still very young will definitely strengthen the relationship between you. Constant contact thanks to baby carrier and comfy newborn wrap will allow you to spend time with your child whatever you do, be it outdoor errands or taking a nap together on the bed. Still, it’s essential to stress that, while being extremely permissive during your child’s early years is very beneficial, the benefits will only start to disappear if you don’t take up a different approach as kids grow older.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis

Uninvolved Parenting

Uninvolved parenting style, also known as neglectful parenting, is definitely not something that you should consider. It’s characterised with complete neglect and disinterest in your child’s life other than their basic needs. No bonding, no attention and no expression of love and care are things that make children grow up to be insecure, unruly and distrustful. Not only that but children who are left alone to figure out the world, often perform poorly in academic studies and social contact. Apart from using this parenting style as the ultimate bad example, the other reason for mentioning it is the undisputable fact that sometimes, on very specific occasions, you will have to let your child deal with a certain problem on their own. It’s very important that you stay aware that your hero-role and over-protectiveness won’t always be for the greater good.

Guest Blogger Series: Finding The Right Parenting Style For You And Your Child - Zara Lewis
Children don’t need a teacher or a boss from the first day that they’re born but they don’t need an adult friend either. What they need is proper guidance, respect and support. Unfortunately, there’s no instruction manual that will tell you when to act this or that way. It’s up to you as a parent to analyse the specific situation and act the way it will benefit the child the most in the long run.
What children need is proper guidance, respect and support. Click To Tweet You can find Zara on Twitter under the handle @ZaraELewis and find her other articles online at High Style Life.


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you, Zara, for a really helpful and insightful post. I’m sure I’m not the only one who will find this informative and helpful! Don’t forget to help yourself to the Featured badge at the bottom of the page!

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13 Comments

  1. 20th May 2017 / 1:56 pm

    This is a really interesting read, I’m pinning for future reference! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • Zara
      22nd May 2017 / 8:58 am

      Thank you for reading 🙂

  2. Tara Neale
    20th May 2017 / 2:04 pm

    Wording tends to show a definite bias towards a certain style which would then question the authenticity of the title and imply that one style is superior rather than choosing the right one for you and your child. In addition, this is a VAST over-simplification of the subject. There are infinitely more than just three styles. I hope that follow-ups will clarify these matters.

    • Zara
      22nd May 2017 / 8:57 am

      Dear Tara, I may agree with you to a certain extent. This is a very serious topic and it would require lots of data added for sure. However, a single post can’t be enough for something that scientists devote entire books and studies to, so I agree with you that additional posts would certainly clarify some questions and I’d be happy to go further into this. Until then, if you’re interested in more details, I’d love to suggest following the work of Diana Baumrind, an eminent clinical and developmental psychologist, who developed a theory of 3 main parenting styles in addition to some others which derived from them. Thanks for reading and commenting.

  3. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...
    21st May 2017 / 10:08 pm

    I think I’m a little bit of each, depending on the situation and context. I wouldn’t say I’m uninvolved but sometimes I want the kids to work something out for themselves so I step back. I wouldn’t say I’m authoritarian but I have some rules that are non negotiable. #blogstravaganza

  4. diynige
    22nd May 2017 / 9:51 pm

    A fascinating read really enjoying the feature Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  5. 23rd May 2017 / 4:50 am

    I’m a different style parent to each of my three children. I have found that a combination works best! #anythinggoes

  6. 23rd May 2017 / 8:02 am

    Oh this is very interesting. I think a lot of would like to be the second with a mix of the third or at least I would. That said parenting is hard and I don’t think I can’t stick to any one style as situations change and adapt as do my responses. Hopefully though I’m still doing right by them. #triumphanttales

  7. keepmum1
    23rd May 2017 / 9:02 am

    great post. we are currently going through the difficult transition of permissive to authoritative as our toddler is more of a preschooler now!!!
    #triumphanttales

  8. 23rd May 2017 / 2:22 pm

    I’m a little confused why the post opens with “there’s no one right style” and then goes on to say which styles are right and which aren’t. However, that aside, I’m definitely in the Authoritative Parenting group. I think it’s so important to explain things to children so that they know why some behaviours are allowed and some aren’t #triumphanttales

  9. 23rd May 2017 / 5:42 pm

    i think it’s really hard to decide in advance what parenting routine use wish to follow, there are so many circumstances that influence the way one parents i think in all honesty it’s just a natural instinct #triumphanttales

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