‘Me time’ irony

It had been ages since the husband and I had had a night out on our own. Even longer since we had had a night away from the little man. Two years to be precise. Seven hundred and thirty nights.

Seven hundred and thirty nights of bedtime routines and goodnight kisses and seven hundred and thirty one good morning bundles from our mini human.

We’d been invited to my Sister’s for the evening with the opportunity to stay over so we could enjoy a few rare drinks without one of us having to drive. We wanted Ethan to experience a sleepover at his Grandparents as did they, so it was all arranged and we were all really looking forward to it.

And then the day arrived.

We had a lovely day out together at a Farm Park (blog post here – shameless plug!) and then I had to leave him at my Mum & Dad’s. Oh my goodness. I was a wreck. I just didn’t want to leave him!

It was one night for goodness sake and I was missing him before I’d even left!

I came home and felt a little lost. I passed the time by watching some of my current Netflix programme of choice and waited until the hubby came home so we could go out.

Don’t get me wrong, I had a lovely time. I was totally at ease knowing he was with my parents who he adores and it was nice to not have to feel responsible for a little person for a few hours but at the same time it was the weirdest feeling ever. I literally felt like my arm had been cut off. It was quiet. There was no “Mummy, Mummy, Mummy” every five minutes and no checking on him before I went to sleep. It was just beyond strange to me and totally foreign.


Needless to say the next morning, I couldn’t wait to pick him up. And he was so pleased to see us. We had the biggest cuddle I think we’ve ever had.

It was needed. I felt refreshed and it was because of this feeling that I realised how important it is to get that ‘me time’. And of course ‘us time’. But there’s some kind of weird irony in that you look forward to this time and then the minute you get it, you just want them back again.

God this parenting lark is strange at times. Tell me it’s not just me that’s felt like this?!

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26 Comments

    • Jaki
      14th September 2016 / 11:18 pm

      And me too! Mad isn’t. I’ve got another case of this next week when hubby and I are off to a gig so little legs is staying over at Nanny’s again – even worse is I’ll be coming home to his empty bed! That will be soooo strange.

  1. 15th September 2016 / 12:01 am

    Mine are always with me, even on the odd occasions where they are not physically present.

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    • Jaki
      15th September 2016 / 10:04 am

      Thank you. Mine too. x

  2. 15th September 2016 / 9:48 am

    such a contradiction yet so true. We are pretty good at managing the odd child free date night away, then sit talking over dinner about the kids! #bestandworst

    • Jaki
      15th September 2016 / 10:05 am

      Haha, I think I spent 60% of the evening talking about him! 🙂

  3. 15th September 2016 / 2:48 pm

    Nope I totally get this! Hubby and I have had a few night’s away since our Gremlin was about 12 months old and I wasn’t breastfeeding. I miss her as it feels she weird. usually we wake so early still I Facetime my Mum and we have a quick chat the next morning before we pick her up. Hope you had a lovely time and thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x
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    • Jaki
      16th September 2016 / 3:36 pm

      It’s a Mum thing isn’t it?! On this occasion in particular I was still awake at the crack of dawn for no real good reason! X

  4. 15th September 2016 / 9:21 pm

    I totally feel the same way when my son sleeps over at my parents’ house. I love dropping him off because I know he’ll have fun and I’ll get some quiet time but then I just miss him so much! My hubby doesn’t get it. I think men and women are just wired differently with respect to this stuff. #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Jaki
      16th September 2016 / 3:36 pm

      It’s definitely a Mum thing. My other half doesn’t get it either. He just tells me to relax and enjoy it!! 🙄😏

    • 17th October 2016 / 12:49 pm

      I’m sorry Nicole, but I have to disagree with that last comment.
      Without delving deeper into the sweeping generalisation & sexist remark (enough said) I have been a father (and a ‘late’ dad at that) for over 8 years, and I miss him every time he has a sleep over; be it at his cousin’s, or recently, at his school mates. However I also recognise that it is important as part of his development, and for us to be a couple and not just a family unit. That also is important, and shouldn’t be neglected. As Jaki rightly points out, everyone is super happy to be reunited the day after, but it is the mental/emotional barrier that has to be broken through. Well done Jaki!!

  5. 16th September 2016 / 11:41 am

    So glad that you got some ‘you time’ – much needed indeed! You will get more used to it all with time! Sim x #friyaylinky

    • Jaki
      19th September 2016 / 1:06 pm

      Yes! I will. The same as everything I guess! Thanks for stopping by.

  6. 16th September 2016 / 1:23 pm

    I completely relate to this! My little ones pretty much always wake up and get into my bed between 3-6am, but I honestly miss them up until then! From their bedtime until they come in with me, I miss them!

    • Jaki
      16th September 2016 / 3:40 pm

      I think it’s completely normal! This parenting lark is a funny old game! 🙂

  7. 18th September 2016 / 3:49 pm

    I am exactly the same. Mine never sleep anywhere and my youngest, who is almost 5, has never slept anywhere before. He’s just started school and I’ve enjoyed having a little break whilst off work as I’m only part-time. We never really get the time to have a night out, although I know a friend of mine would come and babysit if I asked in advance. Parenting can be so emotional and confusing at times!

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    • Jaki
      19th September 2016 / 12:48 pm

      These are the parts they never warn you about! I’ve got to do it all again on Wednesday – hubby is having to come to a gig with me so obviously can’t babysit! Off to Nanny’s the little man is going. Dreading it. Again!

  8. 19th September 2016 / 7:44 pm

    This is the exact way I felt when my little one stayed away for the first time. I have two now and they slept over at their grandparents for the fist time just last week and I felt exactly the same not knowing what to do with myself. Motherhood is crazy, the emotions you feel are just all over the place and make no sense at all!

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    • Jaki
      19th September 2016 / 10:59 pm

      It sure is. I thought the emotions would stop after pregnancy but I swear I’ve never been the same since! Xx

  9. 19th September 2016 / 8:31 pm

    I totally understand this – as soon as I’m enjoying some ‘me time’ I start wondering what he’s up to and missing him! But it does get easier the more you do it, and I love having a bit of time to myself again. Thank heavens for Grandparents! Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Jaki
      19th September 2016 / 10:59 pm

      Yes. Grandparents are a God send. We’d be lost without them x

    • Jaki
      21st September 2016 / 7:03 am

      I firmly believe it’s a Mum thing. My husband is the same!! 🙂 x

  10. 22nd September 2016 / 9:18 pm

    Aw I know exactly how you feel! Ours have never stayed over (yet!) but have stayed with grandparents while weve gone out and it does feel odd, especially holding hands!

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    • Jaki
      23rd September 2016 / 11:39 am

      I’ve just survived night two – when we were at home and he wasn’t. I couldn’t go in his room!! 🙂 xx

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